Guide to the Virtual Girlfriend Experience

I was lucky enough this past week to have an amazing conversation with a fellow flirt from NiteFlirt! My friend, Sara (popularly known as SweetlySensual_Sara on NF), is the gorgeous, sensual voice behind the podcast, “Must Love Fetish.” Yours truly was her special guest this week! Sara interviewed me, and we had a very insightful and thought provoking conversation regarding the virtual girlfriend experience.

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In an effort to expand upon a very fascinating chat between Sara and I, I’m dedicating this post to the elaboration of some of the interesting topics related to being a virtual girlfriend. My suggestion is to first listen to my guest appearance on “Must Love Fetish” if you haven’t done so already! If you decide to read this first, be sure to accompany it with the podcast as a follow up (you can listen for free on iTunes), so you can hear Sara and I speaking about the complexities, intricacies, and addiction that is the virtual girlfriend experience.

As a consumer in adult services, you’ve likely seen the term “girlfriend experience” or “GFE” advertised all over NiteFlirt and other adult forums. Perhaps you’ve been one of the lucky men to partake in a mutually beneficial girlfriend experience? Maybe you’ve been curious but reluctant to seek out a GFE service, not knowing what your expectations might be? Or, perhaps you have no fucking clue what having a virtual girlfriend would even mean? Well, here is your guide to all things “Virtual Girlfriend Experience.”

What is the Virtual Girlfriend Experience?

Very much like the name indicates, having a virtual girlfriend brings all the benefits of a real relationship: conversation, companionship, intimacy, sexual pleasure, and emotional support to name a few. Yet, ideally, having a virtual girlfriend leaves behind the many stresses that tend to arise with a “real life” girlfriend or wife: arguing, jealousy, nagging, control, demands, predictability and monotony.

The concept of the “Girlfriend Experience” arises from the world of escorting;however, a virtual girlfriend provides, essentially, the same experience but without the actual physical contact with that of sleeping with an escort. Yes, it’s still considered a transaction or exchange of goods – the reality is that when we work in the adult business that is at the core of all of our phone sex relationships. There is the provider and there is the client; however, the virtual girlfriend experience truly delivers so much more than an exchange of sexual pleasure for money. Dedicating your hard earned money and time to a virtual girlfriend pays off far more than it costs. If you find the right girl, the benefits are endless, and you will have earned not only a confidant but a true friend who is always in your corner. Your girlfriend experience will include having a woman who is always available to cheer you on during your achievements and successes and who is going to be there for you during obstacles and hardships.

Is the Virtual Girlfriend Experience for You?

A majority of my “virtual boyfriends” are men who are at a point in their lives where they might feel like they are no longer the priority in their real life partner’s world or have found that they are missing out on the most necessary intimate aspects of a relationship. If in your life you often feel lonely, ignored, under appreciated, unimportant, insecure, and in need of someone to talk to, then you are already a great candidate for finding a virtual girlfriend.

GFE isn’t just for the aforementioned men; perhaps you travel a lot or are often too preoccupied with work and friends to give what is necessary to an every day relationship. Maybe you find that you are often selfish in relationships and it’s just sometimes too much trouble to cater to the schedule, wishes, and expectations of women who just don’t understand what it is you need out of a girlfriend. It’s even possible that you’re perfectly happy in your current marriage or relationship, yet need a little spice on the side.

There’s no shame in wanting action and excitement so you can explore your sexuality. There’s also no shame in wanting to, as you continue to grow as a person, meet new people and have new experiences outside of your every day world of family and friends and work and mundane duties. All humans crave both emotional connection and sexual gratification; therefore, the virtual girlfriend experience is a no-strings-attached way to fulfill those desires without actually stepping out on your significant other or compromising your own needs. 

How to Find the Perfect Virtual Girlfriend

On the “Must Love Fetish” virtual girlfriend experience episode, I spoke about how I never set out to offer a girlfriend experience to callers. Becoming a professional “girlfriend” of sorts just happened naturally, because I grew to have genuine care for my callers and made real connections to men who kept wanting to come back for more. Over time, these phone relationships have grown into true connections, real attraction, and a mutually beneficial arrangement.

As a provider of phone sex, I most certainly know that every single man who dials my number is not going to be my “ideal” man. Sometimes the reality is that a phone sex call just doesn’t deliver the chemistry or connection or gratification that someone is looking for. Personalities might conflict, fetishes might work in opposition of what I, as a provider, am willing to offer, and any other number of scenarios might occur that make a caller and a phone sex girl NOT be a perfect match for each other. For instance, just like when going on a real date, sometimes you just don’t “click.” In regular phone sex and fantasy role play calls, these issues aren’t usually much of an issue at all. In fact, a caller might not ever even have the indication that our personalities aren’t jiving, because the purpose isn’t to get to know one another, the purpose is to get off. It’s my job to please YOU, the caller. If you’re paying for me to humiliate you because of your small penis or if you’re wanting me to “wallet rape” you or role play as your cum hungry wife, I can do all of these things whether it turns me on or not. You pay for our services; us girls deliver.

The virtual girlfriend experience though, is vastly different. There needs to be a real connection and mutual respect for one another on multiple levels. As much as I am here to cater to you and your needs, you also provide me with a gratifying sexual, emotional, and intimate experience. Being a phone whore can be faked; being a virtual girlfriend takes authenticity, truth, understanding, and most of all RESPECT.  For men browsing sexy listing after sexy listing of women offering a virtual girlfriend experience, it might be hard to determine who the right girl for you is. I’ve found that most of my virtual boyfriends didn’t start off wanting or seeking out a GFE; what happened was that they called me for a more traditional phone sex experience, but we hit it off.

Over time, we both wanted to know more about each other’s personalities and lives. We would discuss everything from our sexual desires to our ideal dates to what our favorite movies and books are or just sharing a funny story about something that happened to us that day.We began to have longer conversations that focus on real life opinions, observations, and experiences rather than just going through the motions of a sexual experience and hanging up the phone. This doesn’t mean, however, that many men don’t set out to find a virtual girlfriend rather than just a smoking hot phone fuck. It just takes a little bit more work on your behalf to find a woman who is going to be genuine with you rather than someone who is just going to play along as though it’s a fantasy. Again, let me be clear – “playing” at being your girlfriend is well within the realm of phone sex services; but, if you truly want to feel a true connection, it means you’ve got to engage in repeated calls and the entire conversation shouldn’t be completely one-sided. Sure, you’re paying for your calls, but as mentioned earlier, for real feelings to develop, you must do your part in sustaining the relationship and staying in the forefront of a woman’s mind.

If you’re testing the waters with finding a virtual girlfriend experience, you should be looking for a woman on the other end of the phone who is giving you her undivided attention. She should, over the course of a few phone calls, be able to remember details you’ve told her in the past without it feeling forced or faked. Your virtual girlfriend should follow up on things you’ve talked about in the past, such as travel plans or important events you may have mentioned in a past call. She should ask questions about your life, while also sharing experiences of her own. Your new virtual girlfriend should be able to laugh with you, talk with you about your interests (though she doesn’t need to be an expert in them), and know when it’s time to turn up the heat. When you’ve found a woman you look forward to talking to, someone you think about throughout the day and want to share thoughts, feelings, and just something that made you think of her with, then you’re making that transition from role playing to a developing a connection to a virtual girlfriend.

All of this sounds like a real relationship, right? So, what’s the benefit of having a virtual girlfriend rather than going out and finding a “real life” girlfriend to deliver these essential benefits or fill a void in your life? Well, the obvious is that on the phone you are less vulnerable because there is a level of distance that doesn’t call for traditional expectations like monogamy. You don’t need to rely on your physical appearance being what leads a woman to be interested; it’s your intelligence, personality, and who you are at your core that your virtual girlfriend will become attracted to.

A virtual girlfriend isn’t bringing you baggage or demanding expectations beyond what you choose to give her. The stress of a real relationship doesn’t and shouldn’t seep into your virtual world of happiness, companionship, and intimacy. A virtual girlfriend won’t make unreasonable demands for your time, she won’t stop you from hanging out with your friends, she won’t get jealous because you talked to some other woman, and she won’t make you feel stupid, insecure, or not good enough. You can get all those things from a real life girlfriend or wife, and your virtual girlfriend knows this!

Sex with a connection and deep intimacy is fucking incredible and above and beyond what any traditional phone sex call can provide. Getting off is great, obviously, but getting off with someone with whom you’ve built and established a mutually caring and genuine admiration and connection with can surpass some of the real life sex you’ve ever had. This isn’t to say, however, that journeying into the world of virtual relationships doesn’t allow room for real life situations to occur. It just means that for many men out there, finding a virtual girlfriend experience can fill any emptiness you’ve found to exist in your life. Us flirts are here to save you from a boring, predictable, lonely, and love-less life. Finding the right virtual girlfriend for you can make all the difference in your happiness. 

The Complexities of Providing the Virtual Girlfriend Experience

As the girl offering a girlfriend experience, the experience itself can be complex and emotional. When we’re providing phone sex, us flirts are well aware that the goal is to get you off. We know that once you cum, the call usually ends, and if we’re lucky enough to make it to your “favorites” we’ll hear from you again in a few days or weeks and have a hot phone fuck session all over again. However, when offering girlfriend experience, we open up to our callers (or “virtual boyfriends” as I like to say) on a much deeper level. These men see us as more than just a sultry and sweet voice with a dirty vocabulary on the other end of the line. You will see us as the real people we are. Us GFE flirts share true and meaningful experiences with you, and show ourselves to you on an intimate level that very few of our callers are lucky enough to ever see. It can be difficult for both parties to establish and maintain boundaries when this level of intimacy is involved.

During the “Must Love Fetish” podcast, Sara asks me if I’ve ever fallen in love with a caller. She also shares her own personal story of falling for a previous client of hers. Our conversation is authentic and demonstrates some of the insecurities and painful choices that might arise as a phone sex provider who has found herself with feelings for a man who in any other world is just a distant stranger on the other end of the line.

Us virtual girlfriends are not immune to truly falling for you. It’d be very difficult to speak to someone on the phone for hours at a time, sometimes several days a week and keep up a facade regarding who we are and how we feel. We are capable of falling in love with you, capable of having our hearts broken by you, and capable of insecurities that people tend to experience in real life relationships. As a result, we might build walls and create boundaries that, to you – the man paying for our services in the virtual girlfriend experience – don’t fully understand. We have reasons for not giving you our real phone numbers or meeting up for coffee or a fun weekend away, despite how much we want to go. We might hesitate in telling you we love you back after you’ve professed your feelings; not because we don’t feel it, but because of our own lack of “control” over the situation. Romantic feelings are a fragile thing and us girls would often prefer not to break down the virtual wall; this is often out of the need to protect ourselves, as well as you, from the pitfalls that can doom real relationships.

Need to Know More About Virtual Relationships?

To learn more about how I answer that “love” question and many more questions posed by Sara during our conversation, you’ll have to listen to the podcast in its entirety. I’d love to know my readers’ and callers’ opinions on the virtual girlfriend experience. Please leave a comment with your personal GFE history, curiosities, questions, and thoughts!

Finally, if you’re in search of something that feels like it’s been missing from your life that traditional phone sex calls haven’t been able to provide, next time you call your favorite flirt maybe frame your call differently; get to know her on a deeper level; ask questions or share stories and observations like you would on a real life date. Then, see if the two of you hit it off… you just might be lucky enough to be one of the men who find a truly one of a kind relationship with that flirt. This connection can bring your sex life to new levels of excitement. Thoughts of your times spent with your virtual girlfriend will make you wake up every single day feeling more alive, knowing that there is a woman out there who unconditionally has your back and your best interest in mind. For us flirts who offer a virtual girlfriend experience, we’ll be by the phone hoping that when the phone rings it’s you – the favorite caller, the man who gets us off every single time, the virtual boyfriend who is also giving us what we are missing in our own lives.  

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Are you Taboo?

I have a confession to make…. before I got involved in the “adult” industry, I would have sworn up and down that I knew a fucking lot about sex, sexual desires, and so-called “fetishes.” I’ve always been a very sexually curious girl; I became sexually active around age 13, started watching porn even earlier, and started touching myself even earlier than that!!! So, even though I’m just 19-years-old now, I would definitely have argued that even if I hadn’t personally done something myself, I had probably at least been exposed to the idea of it in some way, shape, or form.
Well, fast forward to me entering the world of phone sex and I was smacked in the face with ideas and concepts I wouldn’t have ever dreamed up in my head. Shocking to me, the things that I, at the time, thought might be “taboo” were in fact considered to be “vanilla” in this new circle I was becoming immersed in. As call after call began pouring in, I quickly realized that there’s a whole big world out there of crazy shit happening I had no idea about, but that I would become increasingly fascinated with.

Before I get in too deep, for ME on a personal level, by age 18 (the age I started phone sex) I had had REAL LIFE sex with 5 different guys: the boy I lost my virginity to, my high-school boyfriend aka “first love,” the married, older man otherwise known as my “secret affair,” the 30-something boyfriend who I still can’t believe my parents let me leave the house with, and the really cute boy I sometimes hooked up with during summers away at my family’s annual vacation spot. By today’s teen standards I fell somewhere completely centered to the extremes of “prude” versus “slore” (slut+whore) and was perfectly comfortable with that placement.

In addition to number of partners, I’d not done anything out of the ordinary sexually. Most girls I knew were having sex by age 15 and a majority were doing anal by the time we graduated high school, so nothing too “taboo” happening over here other than that little married man mishap. Oops. 😉

With all of that said… my first few calls as a “PSO” were a little shocking and ranged from sexy, confusing, disturbing, and even more fucking confusing. Any given night I could go from hearing the sexiest fucking thing that made me so wet, resulting in having to play with myself to hearing the most deplorable thing I could ever imagine and wondering if I legit should be making a phone call to the police! Because of this, I really started delving deeper into trying to understand various fetishes, and before long I convinced myself that most men belonged in one of 2 categories: guys who want to be your “daddy” and guys who want to be forced to suck cock. Sometimes they start as one and very abruptly can become the other, and oftentimes I would find that there were additional “fetishes” that were the result of this basic categorization, but overall… I was quickly introduced to those two types of people and all their deepest, darkest, and most deviant of fantasies.

For instance – in my experience the “daddy” type usually love taboo role play involving “incest,” whether it’s a daughter type, step-daughter, son’s girlfriend, or anything closely related (no pun intended). There’s the “Sugar Daddy” who want to buy you things or put you through school or pay your bills and treat you like a little China doll and call you names like “princess” in exchange for some amazing arm candy they wouldn’t likely score without this financial arrangement. Other “daddies” engage in voyeurism and public masturbation, that can result in stalking, and a number of different forced sexual scenarios that, if happening in real life, would be terrifying, but when playing out with a few of these men while I’m safely protected by distance, can be admittedly hot (go on…. I dare you to judge me, then think about the kind of fucked up shit you are into! Hehe.).

The guys who love to suck dick though, are endlessly eye opening to me! From self proclaimed “sissies” to guys looking to be humiliated and dominated, these men really introduced me to the world of men who were just begging to be submissive; forcing me to evaluate any man who approached me in real life and secretly ask myself, “does this guy really like me or would he rather be sucking cock?” Yes, this could definitely fuck with a girl over time. Particularly a girl like me who, even though my ego wanted to believe I was “experienced,” was actually pretty sheltered in the world of sexual exploration of fetishes, particularly the “taboo” kind. I mean, there is absolutely nothing shocking about guys wanting to suck dick; I’ve had my fair share of gay friends, but when it’s a guy on his knees begging his “mistress” (wait, that’s me??? Lol) to allow him to suck my hypothetical boyfriend’s dick before his wife gets home with the kids…. Well, welcome to the secret deviant world of living out your taboo desires over the phone!

One of my most memorable calls early on was with a guy only a few years older than me – maybe 22 or 23 – who wanted me to pretend I was his girlfriend who recently broke up with him. Me being ME, initially did the typical girly “awwwwwww!” offering my condolences, only to quickly realize that this scenario did not call for sympathy, but instead he wanted me to humiliate him. I was to tell him all the reasons I (playing his gf) am breaking up with him and how pathetic he is. All of this would happen as he “polished his gun.” I’d like to convince myself that this was some kind of euphemism for stroking his cock, but I don’t think so. After our call “finished” so to speak, he told me not to hang up and he proceeded to put me on hold. I then listened to him interacting like a completely normal human being with another person in his home. By the time I hung up the phone I was fairly certain he wasn’t going to murder anyone that day, but …. I’d be crazy to say that it didn’t strike a chord with me in some way that made me truly fascinated by the way our minds work in connection to sexual deviance and desires.

Over time I’ve learned there is FAR more to the sexual psyche than those previous categories I was so quick to stereotype. From guys who love to be teased and denied an orgasm altogether to the callers who literally want to be ignored or ridiculed as you go about whatever mundane task you happen to be doing at home. Then there’s the men who get off on forced intoxication. In other words, I will force you to take shot after shot after shot of liquor so you become so inebriated that you spend all your money on me. In the process of this, I ridicule him and find creative and unique ways of letting him know he’s less meaningful to me than the dirt on the bottom of my shoes. Oh, then there’s the guys who want to lick the dirt off the bottom of my shoes because, well…. That’s hot too, right? From stocking fetishes to spanking fetishes to the caller who would jerk off as I in painfully slow, intricate detail described to him what every single one of the teeth in my mouth looked like, I’ve come to find out over the course of the last year that just about anything you could conjure up in your mind…. there’s someone out there who will cum so fucking hard to that craziness!

Learning about these fetishes and communicating about them, asking the callers questions so that I understand more, and playing out their fantasies for them is something I genuinely enjoy doing, even if the fetish itself is not necessarily my cup of tea. One of my favorite calls was a very long role play fantasy where the guy wanted to time-travel back in time so he could impregnate his mother with himself. I mean, who gets to piece together the outrageous details of such a scenario and get paid to do it, customer satisfaction practically guaranteed? I mean, if you cum…. I’ve done my job, right? 😉 A year into doing phone sex, it now takes a lot to shock me and I am surprisingly able to go through the motions with crazy fetishes and taboos I’ve never seen or heard. In fact, I fucking love when someone comes up with stories so unique that it literally makes me laugh out loud – not because I think the person is weird, but because I’m genuinely entertained by the level of whimsy, fantasy, creativity, and all around storytelling that some people can bring into their process of getting off.

For myself, I obviously like older men and I like the idea of being overpowered in the bedroom, tossed around and played with and feeling so desired that it comes close to the brink of feeling “used.” I love a good spanking every now and then, and I am very much into pushing the boundaries of what me and my guy are capable of getting away with in public, adding a little bit of exhibitionism to my fetish shelf that I didn’t quite know I had before. I’ve definitely gotten into the whole “fantasy role play” world and enjoy dressing up in sexy little outfits, heels, and playful attire that will suit whatever “role” is being explored. Yet, there are many areas that still leave a bit of a question mark in my mind that I’m just not completely sold on yet. Forced intoxication, financial domination, sissy training, and cuckolding, to name a few.

Financial domination in particular is interesting to me and I’d love to know more, but quite frankly most of the FinDom guys on NiteFlirt are fakers who don’t come through. Even though they are begging to have their wallets raped, they still think they can tell the girl what to do and have their orders be delivered on demand. To me, a fetish isn’t fun if you’re not going to commit to it. That doesn’t mean you really have to empty your wallet for me if this is just a fantasy as opposed to a lifestyle, but it does mean you don’t get to boss me around like you’re in control, when what you’re asking for and calling me for is to control you. So even though I offer these services to my callers, I’ve yet to talk to the right guy who has really come through and sold the idea to me. If you’re reading this and think you’re that guy…. TRY ME. Give me a call and if you’re willing to commit, trust me…. I can and will fucking bring it.

So, I’d love to hear what kind of fantasies and fetishes you find intriguing, either because you’re aroused by it or just fucking intrigued. Do you consider yourself “vanilla” or “taboo” and why? Either comment here or send me a message through NiteFlirt so I can learn more about your kinks and your curiosities! Maybe you’re not even sure what your particular sexual fetishes are? Check out some of my audio goodies and explore some naughty and erotic adventures with me, even if it’s outside the niche that normally gets you off!            

Fantasy, Reality and Phone Sex

Before I started doing phone sex I honestly didn’t even know it was something that still existed as a business or as a sexual desire. I mean, I knew about phone sex and had even had it a couple times myself in my personal life (although I was generally more a fan of “sexting” lol), but I had NO IDEA there was a whole world of people out there who still simply picked up the phone to talk and get off with a stranger while talking through and playing out their fantasies.

Having grown up in a generation who has Internet porn at our fingertips at any given time of day or night, I was truly shocked and had a lot of questions about phone sex when I started looking into the world of porn and the adult industry. I have found, over a relatively short period of time, that there are some blurred lines between the fantasy associated with phone sex and the reality of making a true connection with the person on the other end of the line.

Before I get into that, let me back track a little bit and answer one of the questions posed to me most commonly by callers:

“How did you get into phone sex?”

It was my senior year of high school last December 2014 immediately following my 18^th birthday, and my boyfriend at the time (now Ex-boyfriend with a capital “EX”) made a joke about how I would make a ton of money if I were a “cam girl” on the Internet. This turned into several hours of both of us looking up various adult websites for girls who offer cam shows and seeing the kinds of things they do on video. We laughed, were intrigued, sometimes shocked, and often became mesmerized as we saw all the things various girls (some smoking HOTTTT and some … well, not exactly the types of women I would have imagined would draw the level of clientele they do) who are willing to do outrageous things by request on webcam for strangers. So, while at the time it began as a joke and a flirty/sexy/funny and completely non-serious idea between my boyfriend and I to entertain us one night, I then started noticing several ads about “phone sex operators” and my interest was piqued!

After reading several articles, visiting websites with information, and learning about the industry in general, I knew this was, far more than “camming,” a route I would be willing to go to put myself out there, meet and talk to new people, and make money while having some possible fun (or amusement if nothing else). When I first started taking calls I was floored by the different types of men, women, and fetishes out there! I had many calls that greatly and deeply disturbed me, I had calls that outright confused the fuck out of me, and I also had some calls that made me so wet I couldn’t help but slip my hand down my panties and join the stranger on the other end of the phone in whatever fantasy or role play we were acting out. In those early days I spent a lot of time getting off, because… wow… no one had ever talked to me like some of these guys were talking to me and I had no idea the effect that these fantasy situations were going to have on my body and my mind.

Even though I’m young and haven’t been with a large number of sexual partners, I’ve always been exceptionally curious, creative, vocal, and adventurous in my personal sex life. However, the volume of calls, the amped up sexual energy constantly at my disposal, and the continued array of fantasies, desires, fetishes, and thirst for passion was reaching a level I had never personally experienced prior to this. I began telling my best friend about NiteFlirt and phone sex and the fact that I was making pretty good money, meeting some insanely sexy guys, and finding myself in a constant cycle of CRAVING phone sex! She obviously had so many questions, but the hardest one for her to grasp was this one:

“What if the guys you’re talking to are ugly or disgusting guys you would never in a million years talk to in real life?”

I’d be lying if I claim to have never considered this before. Just like it’s normal for the guys calling us girls with NiteFlirt listings to question if we are REALLY the girl in the pictures, or the age we say we are, or anything even remotely resembling who we describe to you – this is something us girls think about as well. For example, every time a guy tells me he has a 10” cock you know what my response is? “You’re a fucking liar!” haha, that’s my response. Maybe 1 out of 10 guys has a dick that big, and maybe 1 out of 5 of the girls you’ve ever called is actually who she says she is, and maybe 1 out of 100 guys I’ve talked to is someone I would actually talk to if I met him at a party or be attracted to physically if I saw him in person, but what I decided from my own perspective is that I actually don’t care and it truly doesn’t matter to me!

The purpose of a fantasy is just that… it’s a FANTASY. The two of us were acting out  role play and the picture I have in my mind doesn’t have to add up to who this guy really is because, well, I’m never going to know the difference anyway. The chances of me ever seeing this guy in real life are slim-to-none. Therefore, to ME in the moment I’m talking to a particular caller, my imagination is in some sense the truth. What I’m hearing is thanks to him; what I’m envisioning is thanks to my own imagination. It’s the combination of real life interaction with the fantasy of my own interpretation of who he is that gets me off and vice versa. I can tell you a thousand times over that I’m really who I say I am and that I’m actually the girl in the pictures you’re looking at, but until the day you meet me face-to-face you can never truly know the extent of what is real or what isn’t, right? Does it matter? Does it inhibit your ability to cum so hard and become addicted to my voice and your idea of me in your mind? I don’t think it does. I think you would be pleasantly surprised if you DID meet me face-to-face, but the truth is… in those moments, what you IMAGINE is what matters; the image your mind paints is your truth and it’s fucking amazing no matter what “reality” might expose.

What Really Matters is Connection

Over time I’ve gotten regular loyal callers with whom I’ve established a good connection (hi there baby! Hehe) as well as callers who have made an impact on me even though we only ever spoke once (hopefully those sexy guys read this blog too!) Each of the most memorable calls have something in common: that blend of something that feels so real matched with something that encourages my imagination to create the perfect fantasy. 

For instance, I have had moments where the voice on the other end of the phone tells me he is looking into my eyes and it FEELS real; I see his eyes burning through me, or my skin feels his fingertips sliding up my inner thigh, finally making his way to my wetness. In these brief moments I FEEL like this man, who I’ve never seen or met, is slipping his fingers inside of me. I’ve had men tell me they are kissing me, tasting me, fucking me…. and I’ve had it feel REAL. I’ve gotten so lost in the moment that the line between fantasy and reality fades and, even if for small isolated moments together, there is a connection that cannot be explained to anyone else in the world who is not feeling the true intensity of what we are feeling right then and there.

Those moments leading up to and right when we orgasm are so intimate, personal, and authentic. Each person’s true selves come through; I’ve heard men cry, moan, scream, beg, curse; I’ve witnessed pride, humiliation, angst, shame, genuine happiness and ecstasy in those moments. Let me be clear, though: allowing someone to transcend the barrier of the phone and connect to you in the most intimate of ways isn’t something handed out lightly to any random horny guy who calls me; no, it’s something that, just like real life chemistry, can only be done with the people to whom you are truly attracted and have an authentic and “real” connection.

While I was initially confused as to why guys nowadays would still call phone sex lines rather than watch girls on cams or just download porn and jerk off to that for far less cost, I am now completely sold on why phone sex is still around so many years after these other ways to get off became available. Phone sex is the only medium that allows each participant to make a personal connection while still activating and utilizing the deepest, often secret, and most sexual sides of one’s imagination. We say things we maybe have never said in “real” life and sometimes say we’d do things that are questionable as to whether or not we’d actually do them.

However, as two complete strangers are laying there, in different rooms, different homes, different zip codes, and sometimes different continents, yet are able to even for the smallest moment feel as though their “partner” is laying right there beside them… THAT is why phone sex is fucking amazing. THAT is why I’m hooked. THAT is why, when you hear me and you think, “wow! This girl is either an amazing actress or really just got off on the phone with me!” you can know that you are probably in that small percentage of guys who have seen into the real me and allowed me to share my naughtiest, most deviant, and sexiest sides of my fantasies with you in such an incredibly real way.

And what if you haven’t experienced that level of amazing phone sex? Maybe you haven’t found the right girl yet! Maybe that level of intimacy isn’t what you need and you just need to hear a voice to stroke it to or feel less lonely for a few minutes each night. Whatever the reason is, phone sex is here to stay and I couldn’t be happier that I am part of this fucking wacky world of NiteFlirt where I can meet the most amazing guys who open up my eyes to new and exciting things every single day.