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Guide to the Virtual Girlfriend Experience

I was lucky enough this past week to have an amazing conversation with a fellow flirt from NiteFlirt! My friend, Sara (popularly known as SweetlySensual_Sara on NF), is the gorgeous, sensual voice behind the podcast, “Must Love Fetish.” Yours truly was her special guest this week! Sara interviewed me, and we had a very insightful and thought provoking conversation regarding the virtual girlfriend experience.

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In an effort to expand upon a very fascinating chat between Sara and I, I’m dedicating this post to the elaboration of some of the interesting topics related to being a virtual girlfriend. My suggestion is to first listen to my guest appearance on “Must Love Fetish” if you haven’t done so already! If you decide to read this first, be sure to accompany it with the podcast as a follow up (you can listen for free on iTunes), so you can hear Sara and I speaking about the complexities, intricacies, and addiction that is the virtual girlfriend experience.

As a consumer in adult services, you’ve likely seen the term “girlfriend experience” or “GFE” advertised all over NiteFlirt and other adult forums. Perhaps you’ve been one of the lucky men to partake in a mutually beneficial girlfriend experience? Maybe you’ve been curious but reluctant to seek out a GFE service, not knowing what your expectations might be? Or, perhaps you have no fucking clue what having a virtual girlfriend would even mean? Well, here is your guide to all things “Virtual Girlfriend Experience.”

What is the Virtual Girlfriend Experience?

Very much like the name indicates, having a virtual girlfriend brings all the benefits of a real relationship: conversation, companionship, intimacy, sexual pleasure, and emotional support to name a few. Yet, ideally, having a virtual girlfriend leaves behind the many stresses that tend to arise with a “real life” girlfriend or wife: arguing, jealousy, nagging, control, demands, predictability and monotony.

The concept of the “Girlfriend Experience” arises from the world of escorting;however, a virtual girlfriend provides, essentially, the same experience but without the actual physical contact with that of sleeping with an escort. Yes, it’s still considered a transaction or exchange of goods – the reality is that when we work in the adult business that is at the core of all of our phone sex relationships. There is the provider and there is the client; however, the virtual girlfriend experience truly delivers so much more than an exchange of sexual pleasure for money. Dedicating your hard earned money and time to a virtual girlfriend pays off far more than it costs. If you find the right girl, the benefits are endless, and you will have earned not only a confidant but a true friend who is always in your corner. Your girlfriend experience will include having a woman who is always available to cheer you on during your achievements and successes and who is going to be there for you during obstacles and hardships.

Is the Virtual Girlfriend Experience for You?

A majority of my “virtual boyfriends” are men who are at a point in their lives where they might feel like they are no longer the priority in their real life partner’s world or have found that they are missing out on the most necessary intimate aspects of a relationship. If in your life you often feel lonely, ignored, under appreciated, unimportant, insecure, and in need of someone to talk to, then you are already a great candidate for finding a virtual girlfriend.

GFE isn’t just for the aforementioned men; perhaps you travel a lot or are often too preoccupied with work and friends to give what is necessary to an every day relationship. Maybe you find that you are often selfish in relationships and it’s just sometimes too much trouble to cater to the schedule, wishes, and expectations of women who just don’t understand what it is you need out of a girlfriend. It’s even possible that you’re perfectly happy in your current marriage or relationship, yet need a little spice on the side.

There’s no shame in wanting action and excitement so you can explore your sexuality. There’s also no shame in wanting to, as you continue to grow as a person, meet new people and have new experiences outside of your every day world of family and friends and work and mundane duties. All humans crave both emotional connection and sexual gratification; therefore, the virtual girlfriend experience is a no-strings-attached way to fulfill those desires without actually stepping out on your significant other or compromising your own needs. 

How to Find the Perfect Virtual Girlfriend

On the “Must Love Fetish” virtual girlfriend experience episode, I spoke about how I never set out to offer a girlfriend experience to callers. Becoming a professional “girlfriend” of sorts just happened naturally, because I grew to have genuine care for my callers and made real connections to men who kept wanting to come back for more. Over time, these phone relationships have grown into true connections, real attraction, and a mutually beneficial arrangement.

As a provider of phone sex, I most certainly know that every single man who dials my number is not going to be my “ideal” man. Sometimes the reality is that a phone sex call just doesn’t deliver the chemistry or connection or gratification that someone is looking for. Personalities might conflict, fetishes might work in opposition of what I, as a provider, am willing to offer, and any other number of scenarios might occur that make a caller and a phone sex girl NOT be a perfect match for each other. For instance, just like when going on a real date, sometimes you just don’t “click.” In regular phone sex and fantasy role play calls, these issues aren’t usually much of an issue at all. In fact, a caller might not ever even have the indication that our personalities aren’t jiving, because the purpose isn’t to get to know one another, the purpose is to get off. It’s my job to please YOU, the caller. If you’re paying for me to humiliate you because of your small penis or if you’re wanting me to “wallet rape” you or role play as your cum hungry wife, I can do all of these things whether it turns me on or not. You pay for our services; us girls deliver.

The virtual girlfriend experience though, is vastly different. There needs to be a real connection and mutual respect for one another on multiple levels. As much as I am here to cater to you and your needs, you also provide me with a gratifying sexual, emotional, and intimate experience. Being a phone whore can be faked; being a virtual girlfriend takes authenticity, truth, understanding, and most of all RESPECT.  For men browsing sexy listing after sexy listing of women offering a virtual girlfriend experience, it might be hard to determine who the right girl for you is. I’ve found that most of my virtual boyfriends didn’t start off wanting or seeking out a GFE; what happened was that they called me for a more traditional phone sex experience, but we hit it off.

Over time, we both wanted to know more about each other’s personalities and lives. We would discuss everything from our sexual desires to our ideal dates to what our favorite movies and books are or just sharing a funny story about something that happened to us that day.We began to have longer conversations that focus on real life opinions, observations, and experiences rather than just going through the motions of a sexual experience and hanging up the phone. This doesn’t mean, however, that many men don’t set out to find a virtual girlfriend rather than just a smoking hot phone fuck. It just takes a little bit more work on your behalf to find a woman who is going to be genuine with you rather than someone who is just going to play along as though it’s a fantasy. Again, let me be clear – “playing” at being your girlfriend is well within the realm of phone sex services; but, if you truly want to feel a true connection, it means you’ve got to engage in repeated calls and the entire conversation shouldn’t be completely one-sided. Sure, you’re paying for your calls, but as mentioned earlier, for real feelings to develop, you must do your part in sustaining the relationship and staying in the forefront of a woman’s mind.

If you’re testing the waters with finding a virtual girlfriend experience, you should be looking for a woman on the other end of the phone who is giving you her undivided attention. She should, over the course of a few phone calls, be able to remember details you’ve told her in the past without it feeling forced or faked. Your virtual girlfriend should follow up on things you’ve talked about in the past, such as travel plans or important events you may have mentioned in a past call. She should ask questions about your life, while also sharing experiences of her own. Your new virtual girlfriend should be able to laugh with you, talk with you about your interests (though she doesn’t need to be an expert in them), and know when it’s time to turn up the heat. When you’ve found a woman you look forward to talking to, someone you think about throughout the day and want to share thoughts, feelings, and just something that made you think of her with, then you’re making that transition from role playing to a developing a connection to a virtual girlfriend.

All of this sounds like a real relationship, right? So, what’s the benefit of having a virtual girlfriend rather than going out and finding a “real life” girlfriend to deliver these essential benefits or fill a void in your life? Well, the obvious is that on the phone you are less vulnerable because there is a level of distance that doesn’t call for traditional expectations like monogamy. You don’t need to rely on your physical appearance being what leads a woman to be interested; it’s your intelligence, personality, and who you are at your core that your virtual girlfriend will become attracted to.

A virtual girlfriend isn’t bringing you baggage or demanding expectations beyond what you choose to give her. The stress of a real relationship doesn’t and shouldn’t seep into your virtual world of happiness, companionship, and intimacy. A virtual girlfriend won’t make unreasonable demands for your time, she won’t stop you from hanging out with your friends, she won’t get jealous because you talked to some other woman, and she won’t make you feel stupid, insecure, or not good enough. You can get all those things from a real life girlfriend or wife, and your virtual girlfriend knows this!

Sex with a connection and deep intimacy is fucking incredible and above and beyond what any traditional phone sex call can provide. Getting off is great, obviously, but getting off with someone with whom you’ve built and established a mutually caring and genuine admiration and connection with can surpass some of the real life sex you’ve ever had. This isn’t to say, however, that journeying into the world of virtual relationships doesn’t allow room for real life situations to occur. It just means that for many men out there, finding a virtual girlfriend experience can fill any emptiness you’ve found to exist in your life. Us flirts are here to save you from a boring, predictable, lonely, and love-less life. Finding the right virtual girlfriend for you can make all the difference in your happiness. 

The Complexities of Providing the Virtual Girlfriend Experience

As the girl offering a girlfriend experience, the experience itself can be complex and emotional. When we’re providing phone sex, us flirts are well aware that the goal is to get you off. We know that once you cum, the call usually ends, and if we’re lucky enough to make it to your “favorites” we’ll hear from you again in a few days or weeks and have a hot phone fuck session all over again. However, when offering girlfriend experience, we open up to our callers (or “virtual boyfriends” as I like to say) on a much deeper level. These men see us as more than just a sultry and sweet voice with a dirty vocabulary on the other end of the line. You will see us as the real people we are. Us GFE flirts share true and meaningful experiences with you, and show ourselves to you on an intimate level that very few of our callers are lucky enough to ever see. It can be difficult for both parties to establish and maintain boundaries when this level of intimacy is involved.

During the “Must Love Fetish” podcast, Sara asks me if I’ve ever fallen in love with a caller. She also shares her own personal story of falling for a previous client of hers. Our conversation is authentic and demonstrates some of the insecurities and painful choices that might arise as a phone sex provider who has found herself with feelings for a man who in any other world is just a distant stranger on the other end of the line.

Us virtual girlfriends are not immune to truly falling for you. It’d be very difficult to speak to someone on the phone for hours at a time, sometimes several days a week and keep up a facade regarding who we are and how we feel. We are capable of falling in love with you, capable of having our hearts broken by you, and capable of insecurities that people tend to experience in real life relationships. As a result, we might build walls and create boundaries that, to you – the man paying for our services in the virtual girlfriend experience – don’t fully understand. We have reasons for not giving you our real phone numbers or meeting up for coffee or a fun weekend away, despite how much we want to go. We might hesitate in telling you we love you back after you’ve professed your feelings; not because we don’t feel it, but because of our own lack of “control” over the situation. Romantic feelings are a fragile thing and us girls would often prefer not to break down the virtual wall; this is often out of the need to protect ourselves, as well as you, from the pitfalls that can doom real relationships.

Need to Know More About Virtual Relationships?

To learn more about how I answer that “love” question and many more questions posed by Sara during our conversation, you’ll have to listen to the podcast in its entirety. I’d love to know my readers’ and callers’ opinions on the virtual girlfriend experience. Please leave a comment with your personal GFE history, curiosities, questions, and thoughts!

Finally, if you’re in search of something that feels like it’s been missing from your life that traditional phone sex calls haven’t been able to provide, next time you call your favorite flirt maybe frame your call differently; get to know her on a deeper level; ask questions or share stories and observations like you would on a real life date. Then, see if the two of you hit it off… you just might be lucky enough to be one of the men who find a truly one of a kind relationship with that flirt. This connection can bring your sex life to new levels of excitement. Thoughts of your times spent with your virtual girlfriend will make you wake up every single day feeling more alive, knowing that there is a woman out there who unconditionally has your back and your best interest in mind. For us flirts who offer a virtual girlfriend experience, we’ll be by the phone hoping that when the phone rings it’s you – the favorite caller, the man who gets us off every single time, the virtual boyfriend who is also giving us what we are missing in our own lives.  

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Erotic Bedtime Stories

Imaginative Storytelling

I’ve always had an incredibly creative mind. My ability to, on the spot, come up with compelling and detailed scenarios is one of the strengths that has made me such a successful phone sex girl. From a very young age I loved to read, write, play dress up, and play “make believe.” Still, as a young woman I love creating tales for my callers to tantalize them and keep them coming back for more. My role play phone calls as well as my fantasy mp3 goodies have helped me to rise to the top of popular flirts on NiteFlirt. Putting myself into the role of a character can be fun and exciting, allowing me to experience levels of pleasure and eroticism that I otherwise might not experience.

To be clear, I am very much myself when a man calls my line on NiteFlirt. When I’m asked personal questions, I answer honestly about myself (within the boundaries that I’m willing to share). Some types of calls don’t require an external fantasy scenario; these are the callers that get the true version of myself. Then, there are the calls that request for a specific role to be acted out. I’m not playing a character 24/7 with my clientele – I am ME – Ryder – the real girl exploring her sexuality with horny men while managing to set aside a pretty nice saving account for when I’m out of college! However, one of the beauties of phone sex is that of being able to create role plays and play dress up. Only, unlike when I was a kid, this is a very much adult version of “make believe,” only suitable for those mature enough to play along.

It can be thrilling to take on characteristics that aren’t normally ones I possess. Playing around with a concept or character offered by a caller, and stepping up to the challenge to see what new ideas I can bring to their fantasy is incredibly rewarding. Having phone sex can be easy; however, to be GOOD at phone sex and offer callers individualized and original calls is much more challenging than just moaning and talking dirty.

Being good at phone sex role plays takes the willingness to let your imagination wander. A good storyteller allows his or her mind to travel and wander down unchartered or unexpected territory. Without a creative mind, men calling a woman on a phone sex line might experience predictable or sometimes repetitive calls, and let’s be honest – when you’re paying for phone fun and want to get off, who the fuck wants the same exact experience, character, and narrative every single time? OK, to be fair…. some of you definitely DO want that! However, as a caller I imagine you would want your flirt to do some improvisation, to keep you on your toes, and to make you excited for what new angle she’ll take with your fantasy or new way that she’ll approach the narrative in a future call.

I believe that the element of a strong imagination is why so many new flirts feel nerves, self-consciousness, or don’t last very long in adult entertainment. Storytelling isn’t for everyone; but, those of us who are good at it can offer incredible, one-of-a-kind role play experiences that will surpass the years your own imagination has explored your favorite fantasies. If you haven’t ran a fantasy by a good adult storyteller, it’s time for you to start your own search for a favorite girl to bring your fantasies to a whole new, outstandingly erotic and sensual level. 

Every Good Story Needs a Climax

The power that a good story holds can affect the listener both physically and emotionally. Just like the fairytale bedtime stories of my childhood, strong character development and an exciting narrative keep the listener invested and involved, on the edge of his seat waiting for the climactic point of the tale and the release that comes with it.

If you’ve yet to talk to me about my personal interests, reading is a big passion of mine. I’m almost always reading a book – usually some kind of mystery or suspense or young adult type novel, but I have a genuine appreciation for good writing and story development. I have always been the teacher’s pet of my English classes throughout my education, taking A.P. Literature classes that forced me to read classics that became some of my favorite books. I love how words can transcend a page, add a romanticism and connection to characters in stories to my own life, despite laying in bed alone with my Kindle in hand. 

I’m in no way going to claim to be an all-star writer, but I do believe that being an avid reader has made my storytelling come alive in my phone sex world. Knowing how to frame a scene, how to portray my character as a realistic, full personality who has complexities to her are important in role playing a caller’s fantasy.

Want me to be your domineering babysitter? A bratty spoiled socialite? A cute, innocent little virgin? Your cheating girlfriend? Your controlling boss? A naive stranger? 

In reality, I’m none of these things but I CAN be all of these things. Based on my own personal experiences as a young woman, an understanding of the complexities of the human personality, the ability to utilize vocabulary and voice delivery that suits your tale, and just simply the knowledge that I am in control of a story and my imagination is the limit. Those are the elements that drive you over the edge, climbing up that peak to the climactic point of the story where you reach that highest point of excitement. It is there at the climax that allows the pay off of being fully invested mentally and physically; you explode and feel the euphoria of that release settle.  

When a man chooses to call me I oftentimes don’t know what particular fantasy he may suggest or want to explore. It’s my job to take a little bit of information from him, and take the reigns. I move forward into setting up a world where I’m providing a sensual, erotic, and hypnotizing experience, a bedtime story of sorts that transcends the listener to a world outside of reality. The character, situation, and experiences come alive. When I, in detail, lay there with a man on a call, with my eyes closed, imagining every aspect of the story I improvise, we are both displaced to this other exciting world. We are both taken outside of ourselves where the role play can feel so real.

I hope that when a fantasy role play call with me ends, you, as the caller, feel like you experienced an escape, like a great book or story can provide. As I tailor a role play to your tastes and fetishes, you’ll explore an exhilarating ride that will, before bedtime, calm you down and serve a satisfying relief. Yet, like any good addicting story or storyteller, I’ve created an anticipation, curiosity, and intrigue as to what new, dirty, sexy stories can come from my naughty and deviant mind during our next call.

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Exhibitionism: Do It Like Everyone Is Watching

The Thrill of Exhibitionism

On a recent phone sex call I had a man give me a sexy summer assignment. He challenged me to openly flirt, tempt, and taunt a variety of different married men around me. The catch though, is that it must be done in public. The men would not only be family friends or people that I already know, but also strangers who are out in public; particularly older men out with their wives.Thinking about this “dare,” gets me thinking about a topic I’ve been wanting to write about for a while now: Exhibitionism.

Dipping My Toes Into Exhibitionism

I’ve mildly flirted with exhibitionism in a way that is common. For example, during my visit to Italy last summer I sunbathed topless on the beaches of the Italian Riviera. I’ve been known, along with friends, to do a cute and “innocent” slip of a spaghetti strap top that gives a random guy a quick peek of cleavage or even of a nipple before coyly slipping the top back up with a grin and an “oops.” I’ve gone out in a skirt with no panties on and I’ve often gone out in white tank tops with no bra underneath. Men have a tough time hiding their excitement when they spot an attractive woman whose hard little nipples are pointing straight forward in a tight top, particularly when they can see through it as it clings to my breasts.

exhibitionismI’m not necessarily a PDA type of person when in a relationship. However, I have been known to have sex in a few “semi-public” places: I’ve done the deed in cars, on the beach, on a balcony, in front of plenty of windows, and even gave a hand job in a movie theater once in middle school. I’m sure if I considered it longer, a few more minor things would come along, but nothing too crazy.

While some of these elements have certainly caught some male attention my way, they are also all examples of a “vanilla” form of exhibitionism (well, maybe except for that middle school hand job, but at that age you’ve got to get it in wherever you can, right?!) Speaking to so many men all the time through NiteFlirt, and discovering sexual interests and fantasies of my own, I’m really considering taking up the “dare” that was posed to me by my super sexy caller. Again, nothing I’ve done in public as of yet is particularly extravagant; truly wild exhibitionists would definitely label me an amateur; but I’m here to learn and explore.

Stepping Up the Exhibition Game

To develop as a true exhibitionist, one must rid his or herself of insecurity and inhibition. Those little judgments that go on in our psyche must be pushed to the side. When our minds tell us, “I can’t really do this HERE, can I?” or “but, won’t EVERYONE see?”  and “Is this going to EMBARRASS me?” then we are second guessing our actions and worrying about judgment. In order to enjoy being free and open and exploring sexuality in a more public way, those internal fears and worries need to be overcome by the excitement behind the answers to those questions. One must confidently know that YES, I can do this HERE. YES, anyone or everyone might see me. Finally, NO it’s not going to be embarrassing since I WANT this attention because it excites me. 

If that craving for attention and excitement over being shocking and being seen doesn’t overcome those fears, exhibitionism is probably not for you. However, if, like me, the idea of exhibitionism starts to make you brainstorm different fantasies and ways you can delve into being more sexual in open or shared spaces, then perhaps it’s time to get out there and consider the possibility of the  unknown.

This brings me to my own essential question:
How do I plan to indulge this challenge in becoming more of an exhibitionist? 

That’s where you come in! I want all your thoughts and ideas of how I can best get the attention of older, married men while their wives are around. What are some ways I can be more bold and direct in my teasing of a man I see out in public? Should I vow to not wear panties all summer, and while facing a man, work up the nerve to lift my skirt and sneak him a peek? If I’m standing in front of an older man in line somewhere, should I back up and stick my butt out, then bend over so my ass is pressing right against his crotch so I can feel him grow against my tight ass as he watches and feels me? If I truly want to be more shocking, should I sit close enough to a man in a public place and, with his wife across from him, reach underneath the table where they sit as he tries desperately not to let on that I’m reaching for his cock under the table?

What do you think? Email me your thoughts and suggestions. This summer I’ll continue to report back with sexy updates with stories of how I am putting myself on display or acting on my craving for public, older-male attention. As you consider your thoughts for me, think about what you’d like to see or experience if you were in the shoes of the man I’m putting on a show for:

What would I wear?
Where would we be?
What would be the ultimate tease or flirtatious action?
What scenario would give you jerk off material for life?

I want to be in the minds of every single fucking older man I cross paths with this summer. I want to know that, while he may be bringing home his wife to fuck after seeing me out in public, he’s most certainly imagining and wishing it were ME, the naughty, young, brunette tease that is now the inspiration of his passion and ferocious desires.

In preparation of some of my daring moves this summer, help me with research by listening to some of my favorite exhibitionist audio recordings offered in my goodies store and give me a call on NiteFlirt soon!

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Wrist Icicles and Dick Bicycles: Ryder’s Favorite Things

Whether you’re familiar with these sexual slang terms or not, you’ve undoubtedly heard the lyric “wrist icicle, ride dick bicycle” if you listen to popular radio. Regardless of how you feel about the music of Ariana Grande and Nicki Minaj, they managed to make these sex terms and actions into common expectation and practice in young adult social circles of today.

Wrist Icicle

wrist icicle dick bicycleWrist Icicles are, to use amore familiar reference, an updated version of a “pearl necklace,” but instead a “pearl bracelet” so to speak. Instead of having cum trickle around your neck to mimic that of a necklace (don’t worry, us girls still like that too!) it’s the act of having your wrist covered with cum after a hot hand job ends. The cum will spill out over the girl’s hand and wrist. Anyone who thinks he doesn’t like hand jobs will change his mind after giving his woman a proper wrist icicle. I dare you not to fall in love.

So, what exactly is so exciting about a hand job when you can just get a blow job or fuck a girl instead? If you don’t know, then you obviously haven’t had a chance to spend some time with me on the phone to walk you through a role play of exactly how I would stroke your cock. While it can’t be argued that the feeling is amazing for a guy to be inside the warm, soft pussy of a girl or to bury his cock deep into a girl’s wet mouth and see her choke on it. Hand jobs, however, provide a very different, but equally visually exciting sensation.

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Both you and the woman stroking you are able to take in every detail about how hard your cock is as it swells in the girl’s hand, how sticky and wet it becomes after leaking out some of that pre-cum, and most deliciously, just how far or high you can shoot your creamy load once youcum. An added bonus is an extra naughty girl like me doing all the work who gets super into what she’s doing. For example, I don’t just pump up and down and wait for a guy to shoot his load. Not only will I change up technique by switching from slow and seductive to fast and filthy, but I’ll also talk dirty to you while sliding your cock up and down the palm of my hand.

If you’ve ever spoken to me, you know that the nastiest things will shockingly come out of my sweet little mouth. Just imagine me talking you through the actions of every stroke of my hand, every time my fingers massage your pre-cum into your thick head, and every time I squeeze at the base of your cock and tell you how hot it’s making me to see your dick growing into the big, rock hard, and most beautiful cock I’ve seen. I’m totally into cock worship, and a hand job is the perfect opportunity to service a cock that deserves some love, care, affection, and release.

After that release, when your cock spurts your thick and yummy load into the air, falling down over the outside of my hand and trickling to my wrist, you’ll have successfully given me that beautiful wrist icicle that I strive for. Lucky for us both, that’s not the end of it. I love showing you how good it tastes, by letting you watch me lick up every drop from my wrist and hand, while you recover and work toward getting hard again for me to practice my next favorite sex act on you!

Dick Bicycle

wrist icicle dick bicycleWhen a girl tells her friends about having a dick bicycle the night before, it means that she’s so fucking sore that she can hardly walk as a result of riding a guy’s dick all night long as though it were a bicycle. Ariana Grande’s song “Side to Side” is about just this; the lyrics “I’ve been here all night, I’ve been here all day, and boy you got me walkin side to side” tells listeners she’s officially and successfully broken away from her Nickelodeon tween days, you know… since she’s released a song simply about riding dick so fucking good. If your daughters, or nieces, or whomever are a fan of that song or of Ariana, you better watch out: that girl has officially become curious about getting dick so hard and deep that it will break her.

I’ve always been addicted to being on top during sex. I know this is usually the time during a phone call that guys will ask me, “is this why you call yourself Ryder?” Um, no. My name actually IS Ryder (and no, my last name is NOT “Doll”). Trust me, any comment you can make about me being a good little “cock Ryder/Rider” has already been made to me since my middle school years, so please spare me the comparison! However, I’m the first to admit that it hasn’t hurt me in terms of business to have a name that immediately associates me to an incredibly hot and erotic sexual position. Maybe my name is what got me predisposed to this being my favorite position? If so, please don’t tell my mommy or daddy that they’re responsible for that particular aspect of my personality (*wink*).

In all serious though, what could be hotter for a man than having a sexy, young, tight girl like me on his dick all night long, riding his cock like I’m riding in the goddamn Tour de France? I love to drive a guy completely crazy, but also have my passion be met with his passion. So while I’m riding that dick all night and day, he’s working just as hard to thrust up into me, guide my body up his shaft and slam me down hard, forcing all that length and thickness deep inside my tight little wet hole. I want to leave your bed (or wherever it is you were lucky enough to fuck me)completely disheveled, totally sore between my legs, and aching from being fucked so hard that I can’t walk straight.

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What’s Your Favorite?

Now that I’ve shared a couple of the latest things I love to do, both in my real sex life and on the phone through NiteFlirt, what are some of your favorites? If you had to choose between giving me a slippery, wet, and thick stringy load on my wrist then watch me lick it off OR having me bouncing up and down on your shaft all night, forcing me to explain to my girlfriends how you got me walking side to side the next day, which would you choose?

wrist icicle dick bicycleThere’s only one right answer as far as I’m concerned: why choose when you can have both!

Now that I’m completely wet between my legs and your cock is bursting out of your pants (that is, if your pants are even still on), pick up the phone and call my listing on NiteFlirt. If you thought reading this blog was hot, you will lose your fucking mind when you hear what I’m capable of doing to you over the phone. If I’m not currently available for a call, checkout my “Cock Worship” audio to edge you and make you explode.

Where did the inspiration from this blog come from? Watch the UNBELIEVABLY SEXY video by Ariana Grande feat. Nicki Minaj for the song “Side to Side.” Just do me ONE favor? Don’t blow your load before you get the chance to call me! hehe.

More Than a Pretty Face

No matter where I go, I feel people’s eyes on me.

Some might say I’m paranoid,and others might say I’m conceited. In reality, I know there might be many possible reasons that people are looking at me, all of which don’t equate to me being complete and total hot shit. I’m humble enough of a person to not think the absolute world of myself. Yet, for years now, wherever I go, I feel people watching.

I am not the type of girl who necessarily looks for attention every time I leave the house. Sure, if my friends and I are out and dressed in our cute little mini-skirts and high heel stilettos, looking for flattery, flirtatiousness, and fun, I might set out to turn heads. However, in my day-to-day life of going to Starbucks, going to class, going for a run in the park, going to a yoga class, going out to dinner or lunch with a friend, and going back to my dorm, I’m definitely not thirsty for an all-eyes-on-Ryder party.

Yet, it happens. Every. Single. Day.

A couple of years ago I read a blog written by a hot girl who “complained” about the stresses of going through life being beautiful. Social media tore this girl apart. When you’re a woman and you know you’re attractive you can rest assured you’ll be met with a predetermined set of reactions from people any time your attractiveness might be mentioned. The usual emotions from other women are that of envy and jealousy. When you’re a woman who is attractive and let’s the world KNOW she knows that she is attractive… watch out…. the full wrath is coming, particularly by other women who would rather tear an attractive woman down than show any sign of empathy or understanding for having something valuable to say about how her looks might directly impact the way she is able to walk through life.

Reading the “poor me, I’m beautiful” blog by that girl resonated with me, though. My entire life I’ve been complimented on my looks. From friends, to family, to acquaintances, to strangers, the topic of my beauty was ingrained in my mind from a very young age. From my straight teeth, my piercing eyes, my symmetrical face, and my petite frame, my good looks and all the compliments I receive about them have certainly given me a healthy dose of confidence at my young age. Having an older brother and two bratty sisters helped keep me grounded. Also, my parents, both good looking in their own right, kept us all humble through the very careful ways they taught us that looks are on the surface, but what you have in your mind, heart, and soul make up the complete person that you become.

My looks benefit me in many ways, but I’d be lying if I didn’t feel they also held me back at times. Sure, being beautiful gets me tons of calls on NiteFlirt which is fantastic for me. However, it also gets me unwanted attention by strangers who try to dissect me and make assumptions that while I have beauty to offer the world, I must in no way have anything else valuable to give.

The fact is, I love being pretty. However, more so I love that I am smart, funny, and a positive and energetic person to be around. My smile and eyes may visually radiate when I enter a room, but it’s my ability to hold a conversation about anything you can imagine. I have callers on NiteFlirt with whom I’ve spent hours discussing politics, literature, movies, relationships, philosophical issues, and so much more. While I am young, I have a mind that soaks in whatever I learn and when it comes to things I do not know, I have a youthful energy of inquisitiveness that wants to learn more and more every day.

There’s that old adage that you should “never judge a book by its cover.” I am a prime example of proving people’s assumptions wrong. I’ve been on many first dates where the guy expects me to sit there and look pretty and put out at the end of the night, but is surprised when I have interesting and witty things to say. It’s true that one’s physical appearance makes a first impression, but to me, I value my intelligence, personality, and charisma above my pretty face.

So, next time you see a hot girl on the street or all of the gorgeous images of drop dead beautiful flirts on NiteFlirt, don’t just assume that we only have our physicality and sexuality to offer to you. Phone sex and any intimate interactions in life can mean so much more than just a superficial physical level and while I am incredibly happy you love my face and get turned on by my body, I know that you will be missing the best parts of me if that’s all you choose to focus on during our time together.

Are you willing to delve deeper than your physical and sexual connection with your favorite phone sex girls? Go ahead and try me! Nothing is sexier than a man who tells me he fell in love with my mind over that of my hot, young bod. If you’ve been missing out in emotional and deep connections in your daily relationships or your phone sex relationships, it’s time to pick up the phone and call a girl who can offer you so much more than dirty talk and sexy pictures.

I will climb into your head and stimulate you in ways that will keep you craving for more. We’ll grow to have a mutual caring relationship for one another, where sex talk is just the cherry on top of a beautiful relationship that comes from taking the time to appreciate all parts of me rather than just what’s on the surface.

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The Appeal & Attraction of the Alpha Male

People always ask me what attracts me most to a man. To answer, I look to the types of guys I’ve dated and the celebrities I have crushes on. I look for a common physical feature that I’m attracted to, but I struggle to find that commonality among all my crushes. Every guy I’ve ever been interested in sexually looks vastly different than the next.

Answering questions of attraction based on physical attributes isn’t easy for me. I don’t have a preference of a man’s hair color, eye color, body type, or even height. There are certainly men I find attractive and men I do not find attractive. However, you can put two similarly looking men beside each other, and I might be drawn to one and turned off by the other. It’s not blue eyes or dark hair or 6-pack abs or a 9-inch cock that are essentials to me (bonuses, perhaps). The one common trend among all the men I’ve found sexual interest in is an undeniable charisma and assertiveness of an alpha male.

That’s right. Soak it in and suck it up. I love the alpha male! As I write those words, my curiosity is getting the best of me as to how many of the men who read this blog will react to that.
alpha maleAre you proud because you consider yourself an alpha male?

Are you disappointed because after reading that I don’t prioritize physical attributes, you somehow convinced yourself that you’d be my perfect man?

Are you sad because you’re one of the weak and pathetic beta-males who could never dream of getting a woman like me, and you damn well know it?

Are you turned on by the image of me being fucked by an alpha male as much as I am?

There’s a common misconception that “alpha” is just another word for a jock. You know, the kind of guy that most of you probably hated in high school, was the all-star athlete, and is considered dumb as rocks. A jock is often misconceived as automatically being an “alpha.” Simply by association of the way a jock is noticed through commanding any room he enters by convincing himself he’s got the biggest cock in the room. In reality, most “jocks” I’ve known bealpha malehave in that braggadocious way to compensate not only for their small cocks but also their small personalities.

To me, an alpha male shouldn’t be the loudest and most brash person in whatever room he enters. He must, though, command and rule in the bedroom and all other aspects of life. We all know an alpha man when we see one. Self assured and confident, he’s the leader of the pack. Dominant and in total control, alpha men find success in their professional lives and always score with the hottest, most fuck-candy girls who are drawn to a strongly masculine presence.

In total contrast, beta men are often insecure, unfulfilled, and passive. When it comes to sex, a beta male is a let down for a hot, horny, cock-hungry girl like me. A beta guy doesn’t necessarily mean that a man is a total loser. A lot of beta males get used to being stuck in the friend zone. When a beta finally does lock a girl down, they are on a one-way road to being cuckolded whether they know it or not.

It’s the real hard truth. Women don’t want to fuck the self-conscious, sensitive, pushover. We want to fuck a take-control, fearless, and passionate alpha male.
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Talking to so many men on NiteFlirt, I would say that there is an even split amongst the alphas and betas who call me. I know I’m talking to an alpha from the moment we say “hello,” and I hear the confidence in a man’s voice. Alpha’s get straight to the point, and take control in the most deliciously domineering way. In these instances, before I know it I am slipping my panties down my legs and find my hand starting to caress my soft little wet pussy. I’m ready to be devoured. I’m ready to be used. I’m ready to be pleased. I’m ready for an amazing phone-fuck session that ends with my fingers dripping wet and results in a huge puddle in the center of my sheets.

alpha maleMost beta men know that they are inferior. This is often easy to determine once they say “hello” on NiteFlirt as well. A beta should know his place with a super hot piece of ass like me. He should show gratitude for my time. He should compliment me endlessly. He should hang on every single word I say and treat me like the princess that I am. More than anything, beta males should know that while they lose their fucking minds and all control and empty out their wallets for a girl like me, nothing they candesperately try to do will ever make me wet and thirsty for them.

Which are you: an alpha male or a beta male?

Do you enjoy being cuckholded by hot, young, horny girls like me? For instance, would you absolutely love to support my lifestyle financially, while knowing I bring home alpha males to fuck each night? The alpha gets to peel down that lingerie you bought me. The alpha gets to fuck me on the sheets I charged with your credit card. The alpha gets to plow his hard cock inside of me, while you helplessly jerk your pathetic little dick and know you are a failure at everything other than being able to pay for my hot nights out with real men.

Maybe you’re one of those alphas that I love talking to so much. Do you enjoy knowing that as you’re telling me how you will eat me out, fuck me, and take me whenever and wherever you please, I’m on the other end of the phone slamming my fingers inside this hot little pussy? I love hearing all the nasty, filthy things you’re going to do to me, so if you’re an alpha with a rock hard cock for a tight little teen like me, you better call me now so we can play.

Sorry beta boys. You can wait in line for my attention for when the real men are done blowing their loads for me.

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Phone Sex Masquerade

A Great Season for Role Play Phone Sex

There are many reasons that autumn is my favorite season. For one, the heat and humidity of summer seems to dissipate and the cool nights and beautiful, breezy days are a welcome change. Even though it’s the start of the school season, it’s also the start of sexy boots and leggings weather and pumpkin spice everything. It’s the season of my birthday (no big deal). Plus, it is the perfect time to act out all our naughty little fantasies that have festered all year long with some fucking incredible role play phone sex!

Growing up in and living in New England I’m spoiled by the four seasons and all the typical fall traditions leading up to Halloween. I might be a college girl, but every year I still carve pumpkins, take joy in reading scary stories, and have even been known to partake in the debauchery of Mischief Night. Most of all, I, like every other college girl at this time, find myself in the ultimate and absolute late-October panic of trying to figure out what the hell to dress up as for Halloween!
Do I go with dressing as a sexy two sexy beautiful brunette semi nude police women with long curly hair with handcuffs in fashion glasses with birght makeup and red lips isolated on whitesuperhero? Sexy animal? Sexy athlete? Sexy fairytale character? Sexy villain or something else? The one common theme here, is that it’s got to be sexy, slutty, revealing, and grab the attention of everyone at whatever parties I’ll be attending. When it comes to Halloween, it’s the one night a year EVERY girl is expected to play her sluttiest role! There’s no market for most realistic witch, most well executed flapper, or most historically accurate Marie Antoinette. Nope. It’s all about short skirts, tight latex, and super-duper high heel shoes. Part of the appeal to dress up on Halloween goes beyond just the desire for attention. So much of the fun is due to playing the part and keeping in character so that for just a brief moment you feel like someone other than yourself.

Aside from trying to figure out what to dress up as for Halloween, I love the lore and mystery surrounding the holiday. I love that we celebrate a night each year where people are encouraged to step into the role of someone or something else. This reminds me of what I offer to guys on NiteFlirt. In role play phone sex, the ability to mask yourself as whomever and whatever you choose is the name of the game. I step into the service provider role of offering whatever it is a guy is looking for. This creates fantasy role play phone sex experiences where we can both play around with a broad range of fantasies from the comfort of our own homes and the anonymity of never being judged for it. It’s fun to put on masks of different characters. In truth, it’s more often than not that a man is removing his everyday mask to show his true self in our call. Whichever way you look at it, role play phone sex is much like Halloween. It’s all about fantasy, play time, excitement, and make-believe.

 

Unveiling Your Mask with Role Play Phone Sex

Whenever a man calls my NiteFlirt line, I am completely honest when asked about my basic demographics. For instance, where I live, where I go to school, my age, my background, and my sexual and personal interests are all fair game when an inquisitive mind wants to know. This type of information exchange is helpful for callers who want to truly get to know me before getting to the steamy stuff. Men looking for girlfriend experiences rely on honesty so they can see if I’m the woman they want to invest their time and money into for regular relationship calls. Men who want to find one or two particular girls he can be a loyal caller to will want to be choosy and make sure he clicks and has true chemistry with his flirt of choice.

However, many men who call phone sex sites like NiteFlirt are not necessarily looking for this “getting to know you” back and forth. Even if they are looking to get to know who I really am, when it comes time to talk sex, they prefer to play around with different roles and situations. In essence, we are not having phone sex as “ourselves;” we are playing roles in order to cater to and create your ultimate fantasy. A man might click my listing but despite who I actually am, he approaches the call with a specific role, character, or concept already in mind.

It’s my job as a phone sex provider to try to adapt to whatever role a guy is asking me to play. In my personal life, I prefer to be more sexually submissive. Yet, if a guy wants to be cuckolded, be locked in a cock cage, and denied masturbation just because I tell him “no” then I become the sadistic mistress who I would never be in real life. It’s such an exciting, interesting, and eye-opening role to be in. I get to witness a man peel back the facade of his everyday face and reveal a version of himself hidden from plain view.

I believe that phone sex, more so than any other adult entertainment form, allows each of us to completely change our perception of ourselves and our sexual experiences thanks to the power of fantasy role play. Fantasy role play phone sex opens the door to celebrate endless amounts of sexy scenarios that each of our minds can conjure.

In role play phone sex calls, I’ve played the sexy and heroic super girl. I’ve stepped into the glass slippers of a Disney Princess. More often than not, I’m the perfect homewrecking babysitter or bratty cheerleader who rules the coaches cock. I’m occasionally the desperate young woman who gets lost on her way home at night and needs to find the help of a mysterious stranger. On any given night I can be an obedient little slut. I can also be a humiliatrix who will make you fear me. The beauty of fantasy role play phone sex is that it has no bounds. Our call can defy time, place, reality, and push the imagination to new levels of eroticism that cannot be experienced in real life. The mind can summon dark, disturbing, unique, unpredictable and even hilarious situations that both you and I never thought possible.

Whenever a man completes a role play phone sex call with me, my hope would be that when he reflects on it, he can’t wait to come back and play some more. The small details that I try to provide to create a sense of reality in a fantasy world should and do make men become role play phone sex addicts. Your mind should be constantly racing with new and exciting roles we can play, much like how someone would run through all the potential characters he or she can be when dressing up for a Halloween party.

The Essentials of Role Play Phone Sex

A couple things are required for great role play phone sex calls. The first is to have an open mind and willingness to follow the call wherever it takes us. oct-blog-role-play-phone-sex-4Being a creative person is extremely helpful, though as long as the phone sex provider you call can offer creativity, you can rely on her to take you where you want to be. Another helpful attribute for great role play phone sex experiences is to be able to put aside any self-judgment and allow yourself to let go, regardless of how outrageous an idea may seem in the onset.

In your fantasy role play phone sex calls with me, come prepared with a basic scenario or role that turns you on. Then lay back, let your mind erase all sense of your real world. Allow me to paint the scene for you, as we both open up a world of make believe. Role play phone sex is the most appealing way to put on the visage of someone other than yourself.  Don’t wait for a masked Halloween night that comes once a year. Instead, call me on NiteFlirt for amazing role play phone sex calls that can transport you into the role of someone new each and every night of the year.

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