Guide to the Virtual Girlfriend Experience

I was lucky enough this past week to have an amazing conversation with a fellow flirt from NiteFlirt! My friend, Sara (popularly known as SweetlySensual_Sara on NF), is the gorgeous, sensual voice behind the podcast, “Must Love Fetish.” Yours truly was her special guest this week! Sara interviewed me, and we had a very insightful and thought provoking conversation regarding the virtual girlfriend experience.

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In an effort to expand upon a very fascinating chat between Sara and I, I’m dedicating this post to the elaboration of some of the interesting topics related to being a virtual girlfriend. My suggestion is to first listen to my guest appearance on “Must Love Fetish” if you haven’t done so already! If you decide to read this first, be sure to accompany it with the podcast as a follow up (you can listen for free on iTunes), so you can hear Sara and I speaking about the complexities, intricacies, and addiction that is the virtual girlfriend experience.

As a consumer in adult services, you’ve likely seen the term “girlfriend experience” or “GFE” advertised all over NiteFlirt and other adult forums. Perhaps you’ve been one of the lucky men to partake in a mutually beneficial girlfriend experience? Maybe you’ve been curious but reluctant to seek out a GFE service, not knowing what your expectations might be? Or, perhaps you have no fucking clue what having a virtual girlfriend would even mean? Well, here is your guide to all things “Virtual Girlfriend Experience.”

What is the Virtual Girlfriend Experience?

Very much like the name indicates, having a virtual girlfriend brings all the benefits of a real relationship: conversation, companionship, intimacy, sexual pleasure, and emotional support to name a few. Yet, ideally, having a virtual girlfriend leaves behind the many stresses that tend to arise with a “real life” girlfriend or wife: arguing, jealousy, nagging, control, demands, predictability and monotony.

The concept of the “Girlfriend Experience” arises from the world of escorting;however, a virtual girlfriend provides, essentially, the same experience but without the actual physical contact with that of sleeping with an escort. Yes, it’s still considered a transaction or exchange of goods – the reality is that when we work in the adult business that is at the core of all of our phone sex relationships. There is the provider and there is the client; however, the virtual girlfriend experience truly delivers so much more than an exchange of sexual pleasure for money. Dedicating your hard earned money and time to a virtual girlfriend pays off far more than it costs. If you find the right girl, the benefits are endless, and you will have earned not only a confidant but a true friend who is always in your corner. Your girlfriend experience will include having a woman who is always available to cheer you on during your achievements and successes and who is going to be there for you during obstacles and hardships.

Is the Virtual Girlfriend Experience for You?

A majority of my “virtual boyfriends” are men who are at a point in their lives where they might feel like they are no longer the priority in their real life partner’s world or have found that they are missing out on the most necessary intimate aspects of a relationship. If in your life you often feel lonely, ignored, under appreciated, unimportant, insecure, and in need of someone to talk to, then you are already a great candidate for finding a virtual girlfriend.

GFE isn’t just for the aforementioned men; perhaps you travel a lot or are often too preoccupied with work and friends to give what is necessary to an every day relationship. Maybe you find that you are often selfish in relationships and it’s just sometimes too much trouble to cater to the schedule, wishes, and expectations of women who just don’t understand what it is you need out of a girlfriend. It’s even possible that you’re perfectly happy in your current marriage or relationship, yet need a little spice on the side.

There’s no shame in wanting action and excitement so you can explore your sexuality. There’s also no shame in wanting to, as you continue to grow as a person, meet new people and have new experiences outside of your every day world of family and friends and work and mundane duties. All humans crave both emotional connection and sexual gratification; therefore, the virtual girlfriend experience is a no-strings-attached way to fulfill those desires without actually stepping out on your significant other or compromising your own needs. 

How to Find the Perfect Virtual Girlfriend

On the “Must Love Fetish” virtual girlfriend experience episode, I spoke about how I never set out to offer a girlfriend experience to callers. Becoming a professional “girlfriend” of sorts just happened naturally, because I grew to have genuine care for my callers and made real connections to men who kept wanting to come back for more. Over time, these phone relationships have grown into true connections, real attraction, and a mutually beneficial arrangement.

As a provider of phone sex, I most certainly know that every single man who dials my number is not going to be my “ideal” man. Sometimes the reality is that a phone sex call just doesn’t deliver the chemistry or connection or gratification that someone is looking for. Personalities might conflict, fetishes might work in opposition of what I, as a provider, am willing to offer, and any other number of scenarios might occur that make a caller and a phone sex girl NOT be a perfect match for each other. For instance, just like when going on a real date, sometimes you just don’t “click.” In regular phone sex and fantasy role play calls, these issues aren’t usually much of an issue at all. In fact, a caller might not ever even have the indication that our personalities aren’t jiving, because the purpose isn’t to get to know one another, the purpose is to get off. It’s my job to please YOU, the caller. If you’re paying for me to humiliate you because of your small penis or if you’re wanting me to “wallet rape” you or role play as your cum hungry wife, I can do all of these things whether it turns me on or not. You pay for our services; us girls deliver.

The virtual girlfriend experience though, is vastly different. There needs to be a real connection and mutual respect for one another on multiple levels. As much as I am here to cater to you and your needs, you also provide me with a gratifying sexual, emotional, and intimate experience. Being a phone whore can be faked; being a virtual girlfriend takes authenticity, truth, understanding, and most of all RESPECT.  For men browsing sexy listing after sexy listing of women offering a virtual girlfriend experience, it might be hard to determine who the right girl for you is. I’ve found that most of my virtual boyfriends didn’t start off wanting or seeking out a GFE; what happened was that they called me for a more traditional phone sex experience, but we hit it off.

Over time, we both wanted to know more about each other’s personalities and lives. We would discuss everything from our sexual desires to our ideal dates to what our favorite movies and books are or just sharing a funny story about something that happened to us that day.We began to have longer conversations that focus on real life opinions, observations, and experiences rather than just going through the motions of a sexual experience and hanging up the phone. This doesn’t mean, however, that many men don’t set out to find a virtual girlfriend rather than just a smoking hot phone fuck. It just takes a little bit more work on your behalf to find a woman who is going to be genuine with you rather than someone who is just going to play along as though it’s a fantasy. Again, let me be clear – “playing” at being your girlfriend is well within the realm of phone sex services; but, if you truly want to feel a true connection, it means you’ve got to engage in repeated calls and the entire conversation shouldn’t be completely one-sided. Sure, you’re paying for your calls, but as mentioned earlier, for real feelings to develop, you must do your part in sustaining the relationship and staying in the forefront of a woman’s mind.

If you’re testing the waters with finding a virtual girlfriend experience, you should be looking for a woman on the other end of the phone who is giving you her undivided attention. She should, over the course of a few phone calls, be able to remember details you’ve told her in the past without it feeling forced or faked. Your virtual girlfriend should follow up on things you’ve talked about in the past, such as travel plans or important events you may have mentioned in a past call. She should ask questions about your life, while also sharing experiences of her own. Your new virtual girlfriend should be able to laugh with you, talk with you about your interests (though she doesn’t need to be an expert in them), and know when it’s time to turn up the heat. When you’ve found a woman you look forward to talking to, someone you think about throughout the day and want to share thoughts, feelings, and just something that made you think of her with, then you’re making that transition from role playing to a developing a connection to a virtual girlfriend.

All of this sounds like a real relationship, right? So, what’s the benefit of having a virtual girlfriend rather than going out and finding a “real life” girlfriend to deliver these essential benefits or fill a void in your life? Well, the obvious is that on the phone you are less vulnerable because there is a level of distance that doesn’t call for traditional expectations like monogamy. You don’t need to rely on your physical appearance being what leads a woman to be interested; it’s your intelligence, personality, and who you are at your core that your virtual girlfriend will become attracted to.

A virtual girlfriend isn’t bringing you baggage or demanding expectations beyond what you choose to give her. The stress of a real relationship doesn’t and shouldn’t seep into your virtual world of happiness, companionship, and intimacy. A virtual girlfriend won’t make unreasonable demands for your time, she won’t stop you from hanging out with your friends, she won’t get jealous because you talked to some other woman, and she won’t make you feel stupid, insecure, or not good enough. You can get all those things from a real life girlfriend or wife, and your virtual girlfriend knows this!

Sex with a connection and deep intimacy is fucking incredible and above and beyond what any traditional phone sex call can provide. Getting off is great, obviously, but getting off with someone with whom you’ve built and established a mutually caring and genuine admiration and connection with can surpass some of the real life sex you’ve ever had. This isn’t to say, however, that journeying into the world of virtual relationships doesn’t allow room for real life situations to occur. It just means that for many men out there, finding a virtual girlfriend experience can fill any emptiness you’ve found to exist in your life. Us flirts are here to save you from a boring, predictable, lonely, and love-less life. Finding the right virtual girlfriend for you can make all the difference in your happiness. 

The Complexities of Providing the Virtual Girlfriend Experience

As the girl offering a girlfriend experience, the experience itself can be complex and emotional. When we’re providing phone sex, us flirts are well aware that the goal is to get you off. We know that once you cum, the call usually ends, and if we’re lucky enough to make it to your “favorites” we’ll hear from you again in a few days or weeks and have a hot phone fuck session all over again. However, when offering girlfriend experience, we open up to our callers (or “virtual boyfriends” as I like to say) on a much deeper level. These men see us as more than just a sultry and sweet voice with a dirty vocabulary on the other end of the line. You will see us as the real people we are. Us GFE flirts share true and meaningful experiences with you, and show ourselves to you on an intimate level that very few of our callers are lucky enough to ever see. It can be difficult for both parties to establish and maintain boundaries when this level of intimacy is involved.

During the “Must Love Fetish” podcast, Sara asks me if I’ve ever fallen in love with a caller. She also shares her own personal story of falling for a previous client of hers. Our conversation is authentic and demonstrates some of the insecurities and painful choices that might arise as a phone sex provider who has found herself with feelings for a man who in any other world is just a distant stranger on the other end of the line.

Us virtual girlfriends are not immune to truly falling for you. It’d be very difficult to speak to someone on the phone for hours at a time, sometimes several days a week and keep up a facade regarding who we are and how we feel. We are capable of falling in love with you, capable of having our hearts broken by you, and capable of insecurities that people tend to experience in real life relationships. As a result, we might build walls and create boundaries that, to you – the man paying for our services in the virtual girlfriend experience – don’t fully understand. We have reasons for not giving you our real phone numbers or meeting up for coffee or a fun weekend away, despite how much we want to go. We might hesitate in telling you we love you back after you’ve professed your feelings; not because we don’t feel it, but because of our own lack of “control” over the situation. Romantic feelings are a fragile thing and us girls would often prefer not to break down the virtual wall; this is often out of the need to protect ourselves, as well as you, from the pitfalls that can doom real relationships.

Need to Know More About Virtual Relationships?

To learn more about how I answer that “love” question and many more questions posed by Sara during our conversation, you’ll have to listen to the podcast in its entirety. I’d love to know my readers’ and callers’ opinions on the virtual girlfriend experience. Please leave a comment with your personal GFE history, curiosities, questions, and thoughts!

Finally, if you’re in search of something that feels like it’s been missing from your life that traditional phone sex calls haven’t been able to provide, next time you call your favorite flirt maybe frame your call differently; get to know her on a deeper level; ask questions or share stories and observations like you would on a real life date. Then, see if the two of you hit it off… you just might be lucky enough to be one of the men who find a truly one of a kind relationship with that flirt. This connection can bring your sex life to new levels of excitement. Thoughts of your times spent with your virtual girlfriend will make you wake up every single day feeling more alive, knowing that there is a woman out there who unconditionally has your back and your best interest in mind. For us flirts who offer a virtual girlfriend experience, we’ll be by the phone hoping that when the phone rings it’s you – the favorite caller, the man who gets us off every single time, the virtual boyfriend who is also giving us what we are missing in our own lives.  

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More Than a Pretty Face

No matter where I go, I feel people’s eyes on me.

Some might say I’m paranoid,and others might say I’m conceited. In reality, I know there might be many possible reasons that people are looking at me, all of which don’t equate to me being complete and total hot shit. I’m humble enough of a person to not think the absolute world of myself. Yet, for years now, wherever I go, I feel people watching.

I am not the type of girl who necessarily looks for attention every time I leave the house. Sure, if my friends and I are out and dressed in our cute little mini-skirts and high heel stilettos, looking for flattery, flirtatiousness, and fun, I might set out to turn heads. However, in my day-to-day life of going to Starbucks, going to class, going for a run in the park, going to a yoga class, going out to dinner or lunch with a friend, and going back to my dorm, I’m definitely not thirsty for an all-eyes-on-Ryder party.

Yet, it happens. Every. Single. Day.

A couple of years ago I read a blog written by a hot girl who “complained” about the stresses of going through life being beautiful. Social media tore this girl apart. When you’re a woman and you know you’re attractive you can rest assured you’ll be met with a predetermined set of reactions from people any time your attractiveness might be mentioned. The usual emotions from other women are that of envy and jealousy. When you’re a woman who is attractive and let’s the world KNOW she knows that she is attractive… watch out…. the full wrath is coming, particularly by other women who would rather tear an attractive woman down than show any sign of empathy or understanding for having something valuable to say about how her looks might directly impact the way she is able to walk through life.

Reading the “poor me, I’m beautiful” blog by that girl resonated with me, though. My entire life I’ve been complimented on my looks. From friends, to family, to acquaintances, to strangers, the topic of my beauty was ingrained in my mind from a very young age. From my straight teeth, my piercing eyes, my symmetrical face, and my petite frame, my good looks and all the compliments I receive about them have certainly given me a healthy dose of confidence at my young age. Having an older brother and two bratty sisters helped keep me grounded. Also, my parents, both good looking in their own right, kept us all humble through the very careful ways they taught us that looks are on the surface, but what you have in your mind, heart, and soul make up the complete person that you become.

My looks benefit me in many ways, but I’d be lying if I didn’t feel they also held me back at times. Sure, being beautiful gets me tons of calls on NiteFlirt which is fantastic for me. However, it also gets me unwanted attention by strangers who try to dissect me and make assumptions that while I have beauty to offer the world, I must in no way have anything else valuable to give.

The fact is, I love being pretty. However, more so I love that I am smart, funny, and a positive and energetic person to be around. My smile and eyes may visually radiate when I enter a room, but it’s my ability to hold a conversation about anything you can imagine. I have callers on NiteFlirt with whom I’ve spent hours discussing politics, literature, movies, relationships, philosophical issues, and so much more. While I am young, I have a mind that soaks in whatever I learn and when it comes to things I do not know, I have a youthful energy of inquisitiveness that wants to learn more and more every day.

There’s that old adage that you should “never judge a book by its cover.” I am a prime example of proving people’s assumptions wrong. I’ve been on many first dates where the guy expects me to sit there and look pretty and put out at the end of the night, but is surprised when I have interesting and witty things to say. It’s true that one’s physical appearance makes a first impression, but to me, I value my intelligence, personality, and charisma above my pretty face.

So, next time you see a hot girl on the street or all of the gorgeous images of drop dead beautiful flirts on NiteFlirt, don’t just assume that we only have our physicality and sexuality to offer to you. Phone sex and any intimate interactions in life can mean so much more than just a superficial physical level and while I am incredibly happy you love my face and get turned on by my body, I know that you will be missing the best parts of me if that’s all you choose to focus on during our time together.

Are you willing to delve deeper than your physical and sexual connection with your favorite phone sex girls? Go ahead and try me! Nothing is sexier than a man who tells me he fell in love with my mind over that of my hot, young bod. If you’ve been missing out in emotional and deep connections in your daily relationships or your phone sex relationships, it’s time to pick up the phone and call a girl who can offer you so much more than dirty talk and sexy pictures.

I will climb into your head and stimulate you in ways that will keep you craving for more. We’ll grow to have a mutual caring relationship for one another, where sex talk is just the cherry on top of a beautiful relationship that comes from taking the time to appreciate all parts of me rather than just what’s on the surface.

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The Appeal & Attraction of the Alpha Male

People always ask me what attracts me most to a man. To answer, I look to the types of guys I’ve dated and the celebrities I have crushes on. I look for a common physical feature that I’m attracted to, but I struggle to find that commonality among all my crushes. Every guy I’ve ever been interested in sexually looks vastly different than the next.

Answering questions of attraction based on physical attributes isn’t easy for me. I don’t have a preference of a man’s hair color, eye color, body type, or even height. There are certainly men I find attractive and men I do not find attractive. However, you can put two similarly looking men beside each other, and I might be drawn to one and turned off by the other. It’s not blue eyes or dark hair or 6-pack abs or a 9-inch cock that are essentials to me (bonuses, perhaps). The one common trend among all the men I’ve found sexual interest in is an undeniable charisma and assertiveness of an alpha male.

That’s right. Soak it in and suck it up. I love the alpha male! As I write those words, my curiosity is getting the best of me as to how many of the men who read this blog will react to that.
alpha maleAre you proud because you consider yourself an alpha male?

Are you disappointed because after reading that I don’t prioritize physical attributes, you somehow convinced yourself that you’d be my perfect man?

Are you sad because you’re one of the weak and pathetic beta-males who could never dream of getting a woman like me, and you damn well know it?

Are you turned on by the image of me being fucked by an alpha male as much as I am?

There’s a common misconception that “alpha” is just another word for a jock. You know, the kind of guy that most of you probably hated in high school, was the all-star athlete, and is considered dumb as rocks. A jock is often misconceived as automatically being an “alpha.” Simply by association of the way a jock is noticed through commanding any room he enters by convincing himself he’s got the biggest cock in the room. In reality, most “jocks” I’ve known bealpha malehave in that braggadocious way to compensate not only for their small cocks but also their small personalities.

To me, an alpha male shouldn’t be the loudest and most brash person in whatever room he enters. He must, though, command and rule in the bedroom and all other aspects of life. We all know an alpha man when we see one. Self assured and confident, he’s the leader of the pack. Dominant and in total control, alpha men find success in their professional lives and always score with the hottest, most fuck-candy girls who are drawn to a strongly masculine presence.

In total contrast, beta men are often insecure, unfulfilled, and passive. When it comes to sex, a beta male is a let down for a hot, horny, cock-hungry girl like me. A beta guy doesn’t necessarily mean that a man is a total loser. A lot of beta males get used to being stuck in the friend zone. When a beta finally does lock a girl down, they are on a one-way road to being cuckolded whether they know it or not.

It’s the real hard truth. Women don’t want to fuck the self-conscious, sensitive, pushover. We want to fuck a take-control, fearless, and passionate alpha male.
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Talking to so many men on NiteFlirt, I would say that there is an even split amongst the alphas and betas who call me. I know I’m talking to an alpha from the moment we say “hello,” and I hear the confidence in a man’s voice. Alpha’s get straight to the point, and take control in the most deliciously domineering way. In these instances, before I know it I am slipping my panties down my legs and find my hand starting to caress my soft little wet pussy. I’m ready to be devoured. I’m ready to be used. I’m ready to be pleased. I’m ready for an amazing phone-fuck session that ends with my fingers dripping wet and results in a huge puddle in the center of my sheets.

alpha maleMost beta men know that they are inferior. This is often easy to determine once they say “hello” on NiteFlirt as well. A beta should know his place with a super hot piece of ass like me. He should show gratitude for my time. He should compliment me endlessly. He should hang on every single word I say and treat me like the princess that I am. More than anything, beta males should know that while they lose their fucking minds and all control and empty out their wallets for a girl like me, nothing they candesperately try to do will ever make me wet and thirsty for them.

Which are you: an alpha male or a beta male?

Do you enjoy being cuckholded by hot, young, horny girls like me? For instance, would you absolutely love to support my lifestyle financially, while knowing I bring home alpha males to fuck each night? The alpha gets to peel down that lingerie you bought me. The alpha gets to fuck me on the sheets I charged with your credit card. The alpha gets to plow his hard cock inside of me, while you helplessly jerk your pathetic little dick and know you are a failure at everything other than being able to pay for my hot nights out with real men.

Maybe you’re one of those alphas that I love talking to so much. Do you enjoy knowing that as you’re telling me how you will eat me out, fuck me, and take me whenever and wherever you please, I’m on the other end of the phone slamming my fingers inside this hot little pussy? I love hearing all the nasty, filthy things you’re going to do to me, so if you’re an alpha with a rock hard cock for a tight little teen like me, you better call me now so we can play.

Sorry beta boys. You can wait in line for my attention for when the real men are done blowing their loads for me.

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Phone Sex Masquerade

A Great Season for Role Play Phone Sex

There are many reasons that autumn is my favorite season. For one, the heat and humidity of summer seems to dissipate and the cool nights and beautiful, breezy days are a welcome change. Even though it’s the start of the school season, it’s also the start of sexy boots and leggings weather and pumpkin spice everything. It’s the season of my birthday (no big deal). Plus, it is the perfect time to act out all our naughty little fantasies that have festered all year long with some fucking incredible role play phone sex!

Growing up in and living in New England I’m spoiled by the four seasons and all the typical fall traditions leading up to Halloween. I might be a college girl, but every year I still carve pumpkins, take joy in reading scary stories, and have even been known to partake in the debauchery of Mischief Night. Most of all, I, like every other college girl at this time, find myself in the ultimate and absolute late-October panic of trying to figure out what the hell to dress up as for Halloween!
Do I go with dressing as a sexy two sexy beautiful brunette semi nude police women with long curly hair with handcuffs in fashion glasses with birght makeup and red lips isolated on whitesuperhero? Sexy animal? Sexy athlete? Sexy fairytale character? Sexy villain or something else? The one common theme here, is that it’s got to be sexy, slutty, revealing, and grab the attention of everyone at whatever parties I’ll be attending. When it comes to Halloween, it’s the one night a year EVERY girl is expected to play her sluttiest role! There’s no market for most realistic witch, most well executed flapper, or most historically accurate Marie Antoinette. Nope. It’s all about short skirts, tight latex, and super-duper high heel shoes. Part of the appeal to dress up on Halloween goes beyond just the desire for attention. So much of the fun is due to playing the part and keeping in character so that for just a brief moment you feel like someone other than yourself.

Aside from trying to figure out what to dress up as for Halloween, I love the lore and mystery surrounding the holiday. I love that we celebrate a night each year where people are encouraged to step into the role of someone or something else. This reminds me of what I offer to guys on NiteFlirt. In role play phone sex, the ability to mask yourself as whomever and whatever you choose is the name of the game. I step into the service provider role of offering whatever it is a guy is looking for. This creates fantasy role play phone sex experiences where we can both play around with a broad range of fantasies from the comfort of our own homes and the anonymity of never being judged for it. It’s fun to put on masks of different characters. In truth, it’s more often than not that a man is removing his everyday mask to show his true self in our call. Whichever way you look at it, role play phone sex is much like Halloween. It’s all about fantasy, play time, excitement, and make-believe.

 

Unveiling Your Mask with Role Play Phone Sex

Whenever a man calls my NiteFlirt line, I am completely honest when asked about my basic demographics. For instance, where I live, where I go to school, my age, my background, and my sexual and personal interests are all fair game when an inquisitive mind wants to know. This type of information exchange is helpful for callers who want to truly get to know me before getting to the steamy stuff. Men looking for girlfriend experiences rely on honesty so they can see if I’m the woman they want to invest their time and money into for regular relationship calls. Men who want to find one or two particular girls he can be a loyal caller to will want to be choosy and make sure he clicks and has true chemistry with his flirt of choice.

However, many men who call phone sex sites like NiteFlirt are not necessarily looking for this “getting to know you” back and forth. Even if they are looking to get to know who I really am, when it comes time to talk sex, they prefer to play around with different roles and situations. In essence, we are not having phone sex as “ourselves;” we are playing roles in order to cater to and create your ultimate fantasy. A man might click my listing but despite who I actually am, he approaches the call with a specific role, character, or concept already in mind.

It’s my job as a phone sex provider to try to adapt to whatever role a guy is asking me to play. In my personal life, I prefer to be more sexually submissive. Yet, if a guy wants to be cuckolded, be locked in a cock cage, and denied masturbation just because I tell him “no” then I become the sadistic mistress who I would never be in real life. It’s such an exciting, interesting, and eye-opening role to be in. I get to witness a man peel back the facade of his everyday face and reveal a version of himself hidden from plain view.

I believe that phone sex, more so than any other adult entertainment form, allows each of us to completely change our perception of ourselves and our sexual experiences thanks to the power of fantasy role play. Fantasy role play phone sex opens the door to celebrate endless amounts of sexy scenarios that each of our minds can conjure.

In role play phone sex calls, I’ve played the sexy and heroic super girl. I’ve stepped into the glass slippers of a Disney Princess. More often than not, I’m the perfect homewrecking babysitter or bratty cheerleader who rules the coaches cock. I’m occasionally the desperate young woman who gets lost on her way home at night and needs to find the help of a mysterious stranger. On any given night I can be an obedient little slut. I can also be a humiliatrix who will make you fear me. The beauty of fantasy role play phone sex is that it has no bounds. Our call can defy time, place, reality, and push the imagination to new levels of eroticism that cannot be experienced in real life. The mind can summon dark, disturbing, unique, unpredictable and even hilarious situations that both you and I never thought possible.

Whenever a man completes a role play phone sex call with me, my hope would be that when he reflects on it, he can’t wait to come back and play some more. The small details that I try to provide to create a sense of reality in a fantasy world should and do make men become role play phone sex addicts. Your mind should be constantly racing with new and exciting roles we can play, much like how someone would run through all the potential characters he or she can be when dressing up for a Halloween party.

The Essentials of Role Play Phone Sex

A couple things are required for great role play phone sex calls. The first is to have an open mind and willingness to follow the call wherever it takes us. oct-blog-role-play-phone-sex-4Being a creative person is extremely helpful, though as long as the phone sex provider you call can offer creativity, you can rely on her to take you where you want to be. Another helpful attribute for great role play phone sex experiences is to be able to put aside any self-judgment and allow yourself to let go, regardless of how outrageous an idea may seem in the onset.

In your fantasy role play phone sex calls with me, come prepared with a basic scenario or role that turns you on. Then lay back, let your mind erase all sense of your real world. Allow me to paint the scene for you, as we both open up a world of make believe. Role play phone sex is the most appealing way to put on the visage of someone other than yourself.  Don’t wait for a masked Halloween night that comes once a year. Instead, call me on NiteFlirt for amazing role play phone sex calls that can transport you into the role of someone new each and every night of the year.

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Anal Sex Adventures

Anal sex is in, and to be blunt – most guys want to fuck a girl in her ass at some point in his life!

It’s the hard (pun intended) truth. It can become a pressure between partners when one person definitively wants to try anal sex and one doesn’t even have anal sex on their sexy-time radar. The truth though, is that anal sex and ass play in general can be some of the most intense and enjoyable sexual experiences when done properly.

When it comes to anal sex, some of us girls are success stories with positive first experiences. Other girls, however, have horror stories or fears that make us never want a guy going back there under any circumstance. Some of us lucky ones were converted, only to become addicted to the pleasure of ass play and anal sex, with the hope of introducing it to new partners of our own.

Is Anal Sex “Vanilla” or “Taboo”?

Depending on who you ask, anal sex and ass play can get shockingly different reactions. Of my group of best friends, only two of us girls admit to enjoying anal sex and three have tried it but say it’s not for them. The remaining three of the eight of us have an absolute hell-to-the-no response any time the topic comes up.

I became sexually active at a young age. It was myAnal Sex freshman year in high school when my then boyfriend first mentioned the prospect of anal sex to me. To generations older than my own, the idea of sex at that age, not to mention anal sex, might already be surprising. Yet, those people must remember, my generation is hyper-sexualized. I mean, all teens are obsessed with sex and have raging hormones, regardless of what decade their adolescence took place in. However, my generation is one groomed off of Internet porn and other forms of entertainment that pushes sexual limits. Things that might have been taboo to our parents’ generation has become matter-of-fact or even “vanilla” to us.

Regardless of age or gender, though, sexual fetishes are subjective. What’s the norm and expected sexual play to one person might be deviant and offensive to another. It’s anal sex, though, that is one of those fetishes that falls within the mainstream that is still met with shock and whispers when discussed in social circles.

Anal SexI’ve known girls who claimed to give blow jobs before they ever had their first kiss. I’ve known other girls who had anal sex because they didn’t consider that as giving up their virginity (eye roll). Other girls of course were harassed into it by boyfriends, while some had a very clear “no enter” policy on ass play of any kind. Sex acts like oral sex, vaginal sex, and YES, even anal sex are the norms for most average teens in a world where SnapChat and secret texting apps that our parents don’t know about are the main form of communication among friends and classmates.

Once, during my sophomore year of high school, a boy from one of my classes who might never have had the nerve to speak to me in school had all the courage in the world talking over direct message. Alone in his room one night, he got horny; having seen some pictures I added to Instagram, his self control was tested and he became so confident that he felt the need to text me. He wrote something to the effect of, “I want you to wrap those sexy lips around my cock so bad.” As a young woman, I feel flattered by this compliment, while at the same time questioning the nerve to be so bold to a girl he’d never had a real conversation with in person.

As you can imagine, if propositions like this come from mere acquaintances, when it comes to someone you’re already sexually active with, the limits are tested and pushed constantly. From requests of naughty SnapChats to acting out fantasies your boyfriend or friend saw in a porn the night before, this tends to be how many girls my age come around to trying anal sex for the first time. Just like “regular” sex, once anal sex is practiced within your circle of friends, it becomes more normalized, less taboo, and just another way to switch things up in the bedroom (or in the car or wherever the hell you can get it in before you have to be home for dinner). 

Ease Into Anal Sex with Ass Play

Anal SexFrom early on in my sexual experiences I enjoyed having a guy lick me all over, which includes finding his tongue exploring around my tight little asshole. Feeling a finger press against that spot as I got my pussy licked, would make me quiver all over. Eventually, having that very first finger start to press against that tightness, I was introduced to a world that made my orgasms more intense and my sexual appetite even more exaggerated than it already was. I have amazing memories back to my early sexual experiences when my boyfriend would go down on me literally every single day after school. He’d always in some way explore my perfect little tight asshole, telling me he dreams about the day that I finally let him fuck me there.

Due to his desire to take things to the next level, my boyfriend showed me an anal sex video of a girl hardcore fucked in the ass. In his own misguided youth, he chose a video that was particularly rough and hard and turned me OFF rather than ON to the whole idea of it. I still wanted ass play with his tongue and finger, but gave a strong “no” on anything more. One day he even “accidentally” slipped back there as he was fucking me, and the excruciating pain made me scream and cry and tell him that the whole idea of him, me, and anal sex just isn’t going to happen.

Fast forward a couple of years, after my aforementioned anal-dreaming boyfriend and I broke up. I got into a relationship with a man who was much older than me and very married (oops). He loved my youth, energy, and sexual appetite. I loved his experience, gentleness, and sexually explorative nature. He told me there wasn’t anything he wouldn’t want to do with me, and this naturally opened the topic of anal sex.Anal Sex

He told me he’d done it before, but never with his wife. She never wanted to try it and once she said she didn’t have that interest, anal sex and ass play of any kind was shut down completely. Hearing him talk about his experience of fucking girls in the ass in his past and loving it, but being cut off from ever having the chance to experience that again made me think about my own sexual choices.

I never wanted nor do I ever want to be that woman who says “never.” I knew I didn’t want to go that far with my ex-boyfriend and do anal a couple years prior, but now… I was intrigued. I had this experienced, sexy, mature older man who knew what he was doing. Furthermore, the extent to which he would get hard when we would talk about it would turn me on so fucking much.

So one brave night, I took solace in the distance of not being with him at the time and texted him a selfie of me with my ass up in the air behind me. The accompanying message read, “I want you to fuck me so bad, and I want you to put it in my ass next time.” So the following Friday after school, when my parents thought I was going to my best friend’s house and staying the night, I showed up at the hotel to meet up with him. I was nervous and excited. He came equipped with lube and was already hard, but fully expecting me to tell him to stop as soon as he got started. He took his time with me. He ate me out, warmed my little ass up by licking it and fingering it, and telling me how fucking hot I am and he can’t wait to feel that tight butt wrapped around his cock.

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I’ll never forget the feeling of the head of his cock pressing against my ass for the first time. His cock was so wet, and it took a really long time for him to even be able to fit the head inside of me, which was the most painful part. He was patient, gentle, and sweet. He constantly asked me if I was okay and wanted more. I could only keep expressing a breathy “yes” as he tried to fit it in. Eventually, he got the head in, and started to slowly push in further, never being rough or getting too carried away.

Anal SexIf I could ever give a man advice about turning a girl on to anal sex, it would be to use this patient and gentle approach. The “oops, I slipped” and rough anal sex porn approach of my previous boyfriend got him nowhere with my ass at that time. However, this sensual, slow, and conscientious technique not only turned me on to anal sex, but eventually got me begging for him to fuck me in my ass nearly every time we would hook up after that.

Like most things, this affair came to an end. He’s still with his wife, but it makes me smile every time I think about being able to make his teen anal sex fantasies come true. It makes me smile even more, though, that he turned me on to something that I otherwise would have potentially cut myself off from trying simply because it was, with my ex-boyfriend, the wrong person at the wrong time.

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Guy’s who call me on NiteFlirt for phone sex fun know that I’m an “anything goes” phone-fuck teen who loves it in my mouth, my pussy, and my ass. I like it slow and sensual and I like it hard and wild. Anal sex is always on the menu for my insanely sexy NiteFlirt boyfriends, but when it comes to real life I’ve only given my ass up to one other guy after my first anal sex partner.

The one other person was that ex-boyfriend who turned me off to it in the first place. For a very brief 3-month period, we got back together our last year of high school, and I never told him at the time that I had anal with someone else before him. I did, however, walk him through the slower, more sensual approach and it was amazing. It confirmed, if nothing else, that it wasn’t just a fluke; I’m a fan of anal sex! Things not long after got contentious between my boyfriend and I again. One day, in a cruel moment of too much honesty, I admitted to him that he was NOT the first guy to fuck me in my ass. Part of me took pleasure in this due to some of the ways he had previously treated me. However, there was that little part of me that felt guilty since he and I had so many other “firsts” together throughout our relationship.

I’m still waiting though, for that next guy in REAL LIFE who is going to get my ass. I love anal play and anal sex and can’t wait to meet another partner who goes above and beyond to worship my hot ass, do everything in his power to make it feel good, and who will cum harder than ever when he knows he’s in an elite club of guys I’d ever let slide into my ass and spread me open in such an intimate and exhilarating way. Until then though, where are my anal sex phone sex partners? I am craving a good anal fuck right now!
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In the Mood: Ryder’s Sex Playlist

It doesn’t take much to get me “in the mood,” but there are certain triggers that I have, just as anyone might have, that really sets the tone for some exceptional sexy time.

HeadphoneGirlOne of my true passions, aside from sex itself, is music. It’s not something that comes up very often as a topic of conversation when I take calls on NiteFlirt, and I’m certain there’s a large difference between the type of music that I listen to versus that of many of my “gentlemen callers” who, for the most part, are much older than I am. Aside from just simply being a huge music fan of various genres, I truly believe that music is one of the sexiest forms of entertainment on the planet. Yes, images whether they are pieces of art, erotic movies, or glossy high fashion pictures in magazines, can all be aphrodisiacs. However, what we hear can be just as sensual, hot, and intoxicating as what we are seeing when our partner is in front of us. I’ve never felt anything but absolutely, crazy sexy when on the dance floor moving my body in sequence with a song that has my hips swaying from side to side and my hands slowly and sensually running down my body as I get lost in the euphoria of that contagious vibe going around the club. I’ve had my body pressed against strangers, grinding against me, eyes making contact, and hands all over me as the music creates an escape for us all, and I’ve even had some of the best fucking of my life to pumping sounds coming from a party playlist and some of the most intimate love making to an artist or song that just continuously gets me wet between my legs.

SexyMusicCoupleSo, in a little bit of a departure from my usual blog musings, I am inspired to share some of my favorite songs to add to any “Sex Playlist” to get you in the mood. Whether it’s during a fuck-session, while you’re sneaking away to stroke during some private “you” time, or to get you pumped up before/during/after giving ME, your favorite little flirty girl a call on NiteFlirt, I hope that you take my advice and seek out some of my favorite sexy songs that get me going every time.

Ride by Ciara feat. Ludacris

GirlOnTopYou kinda can’t go wrong with a slow tempo R&B song about how good a sexy girl is gonna ride it, right? This is the type of song that empowers a woman to take control over her man and have the absolute confidence in knowing “he loves the way I ride it.” Being on top is my absolute favorite position (among a long list of favorite positions hehe), so this song definitely makes it onto my playlist for when I’m feeling frisky and rowdy and needing to take a guy just how I want to.

Crazy Bitch by Buckcherry

As you’ll tell by this list, I’m a much bigger fan of R&B, Pop, and Hip Hop than I am of rock music. However, this particular song is not only on most of my workout and running playlists, it’s the song I fantasize about giving a very special guy an insanely hot striptease and lap dance to. Of course, that would lead up to him throwing me down and losing complete control, letting absolutely go of any inhibitions while fucking hard, rough, and dirty.CrazyBitch

Kiss It Better by Rihanna

Rihanna is my everything when it comes to music worship, and it’s tough to narrow down her sexy songs, so she’s on this list twice. This song is off of her newest album and quickly has risen to one of KissItBettermy favorite songs of hers. On a literal level this song is about a complicated relationship that seems to be falling apart, and needing to work toward piecing it back together. However, I cannot listen to “Kiss It Better” without needing to make out with someone, have his hands all over my body, and completely have him bury his head between my legs for hours. To me the double meaning of “kiss it better” has more to it than putting a bandaid on a torn relationship. The entire vibe of this song is seeping with sexual energy, which is obviously a testament to Rihanna herself who oozes sex appeal in everything she does. As many of my callers can attest, when you’re addicted to that one person, nothing is gonna do it for you other than them, and as Rihanna says in this song, “no one else gonna get it like that, you here to take me back, who cares when it feels like crack?”

The Hills by The Weeknd

The only other artist that is on here twice, TheWeekndThe Weeknd’s 2015 album is a raunchy sex album in itself. This song gets sexier the more you listen to it, and you realize that it’s kind of an anthem for a player who is after nothing more than pussy and makes no apologies for it. In turn, it highlights that the girls he fucks only really want him for sex, too. I love the honest portrayal of knowingly putting the priority of getting off far above that of making personal connections or relationships, because it’s true to how life sometimes is. Lyrics like “I only call you when it’s half past five, the only time I’d ever call you mine” and “I just fucked two bitches before I saw you, you’re gonna have to do it at my tempo …. I’m just tryin’ to live life for the moment and all these motherfuckers want a real love.” Sometimes we just want to fuck for the sake of fucking, and this song’s lyrics and beat invite listeners to join in on accepting ourselves for the sexual, horny, and fucked up creatures that we all have the tendency to be.

Darling Nikki by Prince

Looking online just about every search of “sex songs” or “playlists to fuck to” will turn up at least one song by Prince. This particular song speaks to me because it’s very much about fantasy, beginning with an image of “Nikki” that he uses to masturbate to, escalating in either a real sexual encounter or his fantasies of a sexual encounter, all the result of the intoxication he has felt because of this woman’s power over his body Stereoand mind. I feel like this song is somewhat championing sex workers, whether intentionally or not in how “Darling Nikki” is there whenever he needs to fuck or jerk off, she will be there to meet his needs as her note states, “call me up whenever you want to grind.” She can be there physically, but it’s the mental image of her, her apparent superiority to other women, and her mere existence which has driven this man to madness and opened his eyes to sexually empowered women running the show. The music itself is erotic, hypnotizing, and perfect to dance and have some dirty fuck sessions to.

Partition by BeyoncePartition

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her man “Lemonade,” this particular song will get me in the mood 100% of the time. All about a girl getting ready to hit the club but her man just taking her before she’s even able to get out the door to meet her girlfriends. The beat is erotic and worthy to ride a man’s cock to, and the pace of the song builds throughout, slowing down again into the perfect hip grinding and climactic  rhythms. Even if you think you don’t like Beyonce, I dare you not to get hard listening to this song.

Good for You by Selena Gomez

I could easily make a top 10 list of sultry and sexy SelGoodForYouena Gomez songs, so narrowing down to just one wasn’t easy. Honorable mention goes to the obvious “Hands to Myself,” the sweaty club rendition of “Slow Down,” or the dripping with sex, “Come and Get It.” I’m sure not a whole lot of grown men, like those of you reading this, think of her music as anything more than radio-friendly hits, but Selena has solidified her place in the music industry as one of the most outgoing, sexually expressive, and stimulating artists. Her songs are dripping with seduction, most notably “Good for You.” Every time I hear this song, I just want to roll around in my bed and slip my hands between my legs, fantasizing about whoever I’m crushing on at the moment and all the ways I can look and be good for him in bed as “I just wanna show you how proud I am to be yours and leave this dress a mess on the floor.” Much like Selena Gomez in this song, I can absolutely make you trust me that I’ll take you there, and that I’ll give it to you so hard during this song that you’ll never want to leave.

Motivation by Kelly Rowland feat. Lil WayneSexyDancing

I’m very confident that none of you would need that extra push of motivation if you were having sex with me, but there’s something so sensual and stunning about this descriptive song of encouragement by Kelly Rowland to the guy who’s giving it to her good. From telling him when to go faster, when to slow down, when to keep hitting that right spot, when to switch positions, and more, she reminds her man that “baby I’m gonna be your motivation” and it’s so fucking hot. Anyone on the edge of complete ecstasy would find themselves following along to Kelly’s song with their partner as the music, lyrics, and soulfulness within the song enhances your sexy-time together.

 

Earned it by The Weeknd

RomanticKissWhat kind of girl would I be if I didn’t put aside the fucking “bitches” and “hoes” songs for one that’s a true romantic, love-making ballad. Nothing makes a girl more ready and willing to spread her legs than being told she’s beautiful, perfect, and worth every single thing in the world. I mean, compliments even trump money and gifts when it comes to getting me all tingly and ready to go. Lyrics like “I’m gonna care for you, cause girl you’re perfect, you’re always worth it, and you deserve it, the way you work it, cause girl you’ve earned it” let’s The Weeknd’s muse become fairly confident that she’s about to have some fucking incredible orgasms, cause her man is all about pleasing her. This song has been solidified as a sexy tune thanks to being included on the “50 Shades of Grey” movie soundtrack; however, it’s truly a credit to The Weeknd’s ability to use the smoothness of his voice and seduction of his music to get any man or woman ready to go a few rounds. “Earned It” is a sure thing for any playlist that’s the backdrop of some sexual action or the perfect tool for any man trying to get a girl into bed.

Rude Boy by Rihanna

RiRi.jpgBack to my favorite bad girl, RiRi, this is one of the hottest songs on the planet to me. It’s a big club and dance hit, making it ideal to move your body to and my friends and I have it on just about every single playlist for our life. However, it’s truly the perfect song to fuck to. It’s all about both partners completely taking what they want from one another in the moment and not letting anything hold them back. She tells her “Rude Boy” that “tonight I’m gonna let you be the captain, I’m gonna let you do your thing” and that she’s gonna “give it to you harder and gonna turn your body out.” The acoustics of vocals and a sexy, repetitive chorus and beat are perfect for any music compilation to accompany a long night together of ongoing fucking and the exact kind of song that makes me extremely eager to hop on top and give my man the ride of his life.

Those are my top ten songs that make a sex playlist, and I hope you follow the links to the videos and check them out as you picture you and I together. I would love to not only hear some of your thoughts about MY list, but curious about what songs would make YOUR fuck-time playlist as well. Either tweet me some suggestions @FlirtRyderDoll or message or call me on NiteFlirt with your own sexy song titles or artists who put you in the mood!

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Make America Sexy Again

AppleSexyAs a young woman of the millennial, digital age generation I know that by nature I tend to have a different outlook on a lot of life situations than probably many of the men I speak to on a regular basis. I’m of the generation who was practically born with an iPhone in our hands and if it wasn’t for the fact that my brother is a bona fide hipster, I wouldn’t have any fucking clue what people meant when they say things like “I have that album on vinyl” or “I’ll make you a mixed tape.” From politics, to pop culture, to social media, technology, fashion, and more, chances are strong that you and I would have some distinction between our perspectives simply on our age-gap alone, if not other factors. However, there is one unifying topic and universal language that joins us together: sex.

When I first became a Phone Sex Operator/Provider/Seductress/Mistress or other sexy title of your choosing, I’d have been hard pressed to consider myself part of the “adult industry.” I mean, I’m a normal girl, living in my parents’ house anGoodTimeSexyd just trying to save up some money for when I get to college, this is a temporary thing and short-lived, not something to make a career out of or to feel like I’ve joined the ranks of “real” adult performers like strippers, escorts, or porn stars. I never had those feelings in a judgmental way, but certainly in a separation kind of way. A “what I do” compared to “what they do” kind of way, which subconsciously, I’m now aware is judgmental when faced with that distinction as it’s typed out in front of me. From the point of view that “I just do phone sex,” I couldn’t possibly consider myself in the same ranks as women literally spending their nights in the laps of men at strip clubs, pay-by-the-hour motel rooms, or at The Bunny Ranch.

Having now been in the business of getting men off for money for a little over a year now, my perspectives have most certainly changed. As I look around me in the real world (i.e. the world outside of the dark, isolated, secret corners of the world with whom I’m connected through the phone late at night), I come to find to a frightening extent just how judgmental, conservative, and uptight our country, if not world, is about sex, sexuality, and sex workers. This comes to mind for a few reasons. One of which is a bill that’s up for vote in California affecting the adult film industry (Hey Cali guys – vote NO on Prop60 – read more here) another being the conservative push for restrictions on pornography, labeling it as some kind of disease that’s infesting our American society, and the third reason being my own personal encounters with a very judgmental person who showed me first hand that maturity and understanding do not, in fact, come with age and experience, as you’re often taught.

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Many of my guys who read my blog probably remember a time when you watched porn on VHS tapes or back rooms of video stores. You might remember when pornography started to become THE reason to get an Internet connection or when at a certain time of night late night cable would show soft-core porn (side note: they still do; this wasn’t just something happening in your glory days. hehe). For you, sex and masturbation was taboo and not often talked about openly- even the vanilla kind, so I can understand the frustration, humiliation, and shame that comes along with far more taboo fetishes you’d never let your colleagues, friends, family or even your best friend or significant other know about.

For me and my generation, however, we were raised in a digital age where any piece of information (sexual or otherwise) was a keyboard click away. I remember having dusty, old, rarely used dictionaries and encyclopedias in my classrooms that went unused. Those items became obsolete to desktops, tablets, and our own personal phones to seek out information. I grew up with a Mac in my bedroom, and as society would see it, I was an adolescent always one possible second away from the ultra scary world of corruption, abduction, and perversity.

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But to me, this access to information was just that… information. An education in something no one was willingly to openly talk about where the questions I had about my body, my fantasies, my internal thoughts and feelings weren’t hushed or turned away.  I was able to turn to the resources that let me realize that I wasn’t alone in these early adolescent desires. What was happening to my body and to my mind wasn’t something to be self-conscious or ashamed of, as people would have it. Instead, I found solace in the fact that women could be empowered, in control, and find pleasure in their body and in fulfilling their needs.

Thanks to those dirty, dark corners of the Internet and Internet porn, I grew to feel more open about my control over my body. It introduced conversations between my friends and I about sex that we otherwise might have never discussed, answering our cuSexyGirlsriosities and helping us explore what it meant to learn about our own bodies through feeling sensations of excitement, touching ourselves, and understanding the way that one day we will need men to touch us in order to bring us pleasure. For my friends and I we are looked at by older adults as being horny, slutty, degenerates who aren’t going to make anything of ourselves as a result of our over sexed and undisciplined lifestyles. It’s easy to blame the Internet, porn, movies, pop culture, etc. However, the way I see it is that we are no different from any other generation; we simply have the benefit of not having to hide who we are, what we like, and how we choose to act on those desires. I don’t believe we’re having sex any earlier than ever before; I just believe that more people are paying attention because of the exposure and unapologetic attitude of myself and my peers.

I’m not naive. I know there is a dark world out there and I completely know that my own perspective of pornography comes from the comforts of my suburban, middle-upper class bedroom as I took breaks from studying for my next AP exam or as I excitedly sought new, exciting ways to pleasure my boyfriend the next time we hooked up. I understand that there are predators, traffickers, and monsters out there. I, however, don’t believe it’s the adult industry, but rather the shame and degradation that comes along with the judgment toward sex, that perpetuates those issues (among other things that I won’t get into). Adult services, be it pornography, strip clubs, cam shows, or phone sex, are for entertainment. The purpose is to excite, release, move on, repeat. Anyone taking it as any more or less than that, as some kind of deep seeded stain on our society, needs to look into themselves about what they are truly trying to hide, because I find it is almost always the people who preach the loudest against something who tend to be the most guilty at the end of it all.

AmericanPantiesSexyAmerica is an amazing country that a majority of us lucky enough to be living here most certainly are aware of. We have the ability to freely speak our minds, debate issues, protest opposition, and so much more. However, in some ways our country wants to revert back to a puritanism of sorts, where sex is for procreation and not pleasure, where people aren’t supposed to live open, authentic lifestyles if it makes some other person or group uncomfortable, and where some government officials and groups want to place restrictions on the type of content, ideas, and images we are exposed to. We are living in a time when a small group of people in the government are telling women their jobs are putting them in danger and harmful to their health, safety, and to the impressions made on society; these same people though, are not willing to listen to the women working directly in the sex industry, who are saying “No- YOU do not know my life, my job, or the effect any of it has on me OR the world.” A majority of the women in the sex industry are empowered through their work; they do not need a law to tell them to “wear condoms or else,” when it’s riddled with language that could begin the downward spiral of the pornography industry in the state responsible for its primary production.

Many people might look at me and think “I can’t believe Ryder is doing THAT.” Yet, in that one simple judgment they fail to see that I’m not “just” a sex worker. I am smart, funny, clever, sarcastic, stubborn. I’m a daughter, sister, friend, lover. I’m a student and I’m a Phone Sex Operator. Most of all, I am someone who knows that people are at their happiest when they are getting laid and when they are getting off. I believe the adult industry is at its best with women at the helm of their own careers making their own business choices that are best for themselves. We are at our best when we are able to create content that allows men and women to have moments that allow us to feel true to ourselves and our desires.

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I already think America’s pretty great; but, I do think it could be a whole lot sexier as soon as we take the shame out of pleasure, take the stigma out of adult content, and just get it in like we need to- whether in real life, on the phone, digitally, or just in our imaginations. My hope is that older generations than mine look upon people my age with some envy that we can be so open and true to ourselves without as much judgment. In turn though, my other hope would be that those who are passing judgment on sexual promiscuity, the availability of pornography, and servicesAmericanFlagSexy that cater to adult clients will look within their own thoughts to identify hypocrisy where it exists. At the end of this all, let’s just all work harder to make America sexier! Celebrate your sexuality and your fetishes!. Explore curiosities and don’t be ashamed to make requests to sexual partners and have open discussions with  friends whom you fear might pass judgment. In the end, you have one life… Are you going to live it making excuses based on what others might think, or are you going to be your own freaky self and support the industry that brings to life every facet of your fantasies in vivid, exotic, and fucking incredible ways?

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